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Uncomfortable with guy kissing me in the club

So term just resumed and I went out on Friday night. My friends and I had quite a lot to drink and then hit the club. Mostly we were just dancing, but towards the end of the night some guy came over and out of nowhere grabbed my waist and started hugging me tightly and dancing with me. It felt fine at first and they were playing some good music so I didn’t complain, I was just enjoying the vibes and singing along.

He offered me a drink which I took (judgement call), and then he kept hugging me and started kissing my cheek and neck. Not long after, the music stopped and everyone began to leave. He tried to invite me and my friend somewhere else but she asked how old he was and he said he was 30. For context, I’m 20F (just had my birthday last week). My friend made us leave the club immediately and taxi home.

The more I think about what happened, the more embarrassed and weirded out I get. I know hugging and kissing is barely anything, and TBH it’s what I’m always hoping for on a night out, but I’m a very touch averse person and now that I know how old he was it’s really been making me uncomfortable.

My friend asked me if I was alright several times while he was making moves on me, and I said yeah every time, but honestly I was drunk and just happy to have someone there; I really wish I could go back and say no and get him off of me.

Do I tell my friend about this? How do I process and try and move past it? I thought I’d love making out with a stranger in a club but all it’s done is make me upset. Any advice appreciated, although please try not to take the ****… thank you Xx
Original post by Anonymous
So term just resumed and I went out on Friday night. My friends and I had quite a lot to drink and then hit the club. Mostly we were just dancing, but towards the end of the night some guy came over and out of nowhere grabbed my waist and started hugging me tightly and dancing with me. It felt fine at first and they were playing some good music so I didn’t complain, I was just enjoying the vibes and singing along.

He offered me a drink which I took (judgement call), and then he kept hugging me and started kissing my cheek and neck. Not long after, the music stopped and everyone began to leave. He tried to invite me and my friend somewhere else but she asked how old he was and he said he was 30. For context, I’m 20F (just had my birthday last week). My friend made us leave the club immediately and taxi home.

The more I think about what happened, the more embarrassed and weirded out I get. I know hugging and kissing is barely anything, and TBH it’s what I’m always hoping for on a night out, but I’m a very touch averse person and now that I know how old he was it’s really been making me uncomfortable.

My friend asked me if I was alright several times while he was making moves on me, and I said yeah every time, but honestly I was drunk and just happy to have someone there; I really wish I could go back and say no and get him off of me.

Do I tell my friend about this? How do I process and try and move past it? I thought I’d love making out with a stranger in a club but all it’s done is make me upset. Any advice appreciated, although please try not to take the ****… thank you Xx


You live and learn... many times that involves doing things that in hindsight were incredibly daft, such as this. I find that talking about things with friends massively helps deal with any issues I face so, yes, do speak with your friend about it.

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