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To live with a hateful in-law family?

Is it possible to live with a mother in law that is hateful towards you? As well as the sister of my hubby?

She (the mother) didn’t invite me to the nameday celebration of my hub. I left a message in our group chat to tell her I was surprised of this. She didn’t answer until I got defensive the second time.

She (the mom) told me that she heard that I was with my family members that weekend so she didn’t invite me. Doesn’t sound like a valid answer to me!

My hubs sister and I don’t get along. She is 27 (I am 25) and she copies everything I have (shoes, perfume, dog breed, watch etc). The first time we got into a fight was because she left her cigarette buds in my car with her friend without cleaning. I told her to go pick her garbage up and she got mad.

Second time was when she was visiting us (my hubs and I) and with 2 other friends. She would complain the whole day. When we would get dinner, she would start to cry because there was no vegan burger in the shop we were in and requested my hubs to accompany her to look for vegan food with her. She eventually started to cry again and tell all of us that she will walk home since we never want to do the things she wants to (although we literally spent the entire day pleasing her) so she will walk home alone. I was frustrated at her for being disrespectful and ungrateful so I told her to walk home then (I didn’t want to bring her to the hotel with my car when she was complaining the entire day).

Third time, we were in a restaurant celebrating the sister’s graduation. We (the family: my hubs, the mom & dad, the sis & I) would have a conversation about how much we’ve changed over the years. I showed them my passport picture and my ID picture. (I had a nose job in 2020 so of course my nose changed, but it was only for breathing purposes). The sister started to say things such as “oh we can really see how much your nose has changed since your nose job!” In front of everyone… I told my hubs later that day to tell her to stop talking about my stuff in front of everyone bc I didn’t tell her these kind of things so that she can randomly bring it up whenever she wanted to…

Anyways, you get it. These are the types of women I have to deal with on my hubs side. I am not sure how much longer I can handle this.

Any advice is welcome, please.
Original post by Anonymous
Is it possible to live with a mother in law that is hateful towards you? As well as the sister of my hubby?
She (the mother) didn’t invite me to the nameday celebration of my hub. I left a message in our group chat to tell her I was surprised of this. She didn’t answer until I got defensive the second time.
She (the mom) told me that she heard that I was with my family members that weekend so she didn’t invite me. Doesn’t sound like a valid answer to me!
My hubs sister and I don’t get along. She is 27 (I am 25) and she copies everything I have (shoes, perfume, dog breed, watch etc). The first time we got into a fight was because she left her cigarette buds in my car with her friend without cleaning. I told her to go pick her garbage up and she got mad.
Second time was when she was visiting us (my hubs and I) and with 2 other friends. She would complain the whole day. When we would get dinner, she would start to cry because there was no vegan burger in the shop we were in and requested my hubs to accompany her to look for vegan food with her. She eventually started to cry again and tell all of us that she will walk home since we never want to do the things she wants to (although we literally spent the entire day pleasing her) so she will walk home alone. I was frustrated at her for being disrespectful and ungrateful so I told her to walk home then (I didn’t want to bring her to the hotel with my car when she was complaining the entire day).
Third time, we were in a restaurant celebrating the sister’s graduation. We (the family: my hubs, the mom & dad, the sis & I) would have a conversation about how much we’ve changed over the years. I showed them my passport picture and my ID picture. (I had a nose job in 2020 so of course my nose changed, but it was only for breathing purposes). The sister started to say things such as “oh we can really see how much your nose has changed since your nose job!” In front of everyone… I told my hubs later that day to tell her to stop talking about my stuff in front of everyone bc I didn’t tell her these kind of things so that she can randomly bring it up whenever she wanted to…
Anyways, you get it. These are the types of women I have to deal with on my hubs side. I am not sure how much longer I can handle this.
Any advice is welcome, please.

Don't you have any other option?
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Original post by Anonymous
Don't you have any other option?


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