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Breakup advice

Me and my now ex boyfriend broke up. It was something that had been coming for a long time, he was getting busier and busier with work and was no longer able to priories or make time for me and I am moving away in a few months. We ended things on good terms then wait to let it get bad and I would be more hurt if we waited. I think what hurt more is leaving a relationship when we both are still in love and he begged me not to block him to stay in contact or a possible makeup in the future. I was firm and the way I heal is no contact so I said no and have made a clean cut as I need to think about what is best for me.
I cried all night last night and this morning, I was in work today and I set with cleaning and tidying upstairs and somewhere doing that I felt so much better like I had purpose again and now at home I am explain the breakup without crying like last night and I feel more dissociated from the situation. I can’t tell if that is a good thing or not. Should I be doing certain things to fully heal, this is my first serious relationship so I don’t know what I’m doing
Reply 1
Everyone deals with break-ups differently, so you do you; there's nothing particular to do, except spoil yourself a bit, indulge your hobbies and meet up with friends, and no timescale to get over it.

Maybe it helps that you'd already seen which way it was going and you took control by ending it. But remember that just because you feel OK now doesn't mean the emotions won't hit you again in the future
Reply 2
Original post by Surnia
Everyone deals with break-ups differently, so you do you; there's nothing particular to do, except spoil yourself a bit, indulge your hobbies and meet up with friends, and no timescale to get over it.
Maybe it helps that you'd already seen which way it was going and you took control by ending it. But remember that just because you feel OK now doesn't mean the emotions won't hit you again in the future

Thank you for your advice, I’m trying to focus on the good things to come and I am trying to not think about dating again cos I’m not nowhere ready.
I feel like I have cried it out like I had a short cry this morning but I just feel unable now for some reason.

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