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Meeting people at uni

Hi! I’m a year 12 student starting to look at universities and getting an idea of where I’d want to go. I’ve been to Exeter and loved it but after hearing people at my school talking about the types of people who go there, and reading on here about how people struggled to make friends, I’m starting to get nervous! I know it’s VERY early to be thinking about this but as a shy person who takes a while to open up, I’m thinking maybe this isn’t the place for me? Does anyone have any suggestions/experiences of making friends at uni?

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Original post by Anonymous
Hi! I’m a year 12 student starting to look at universities and getting an idea of where I’d want to go. I’ve been to Exeter and loved it but after hearing people at my school talking about the types of people who go there, and reading on here about how people struggled to make friends, I’m starting to get nervous! I know it’s VERY early to be thinking about this but as a shy person who takes a while to open up, I’m thinking maybe this isn’t the place for me? Does anyone have any suggestions/experiences of making friends at uni?

Hi, Thanks for your reply.

I am a second year student and can tell you my experience. In your first year, all the people are very friendly specially when you join as a first year student, everyone wants to make friends. In some case, there may be students who may not engage well but that's ok.. there will be other students who will be wanting to make friends just like you so don't worry. My experience when I first joined Brookes, I introduced my self to my classmates and then I started some open ended questions like ( can you tell me about yourself ?, did you do A levels/BTEC, what made you choice this path and see if you'll have similar opinion or different and just talk) I believe you will be able to make friends soon as you seem quite nice 🙂 Lastly, In my opinion, just be yourself and introduce yourself to everyone and eventually you will be able to find your friend circle.

I hope this helps.

Kind regards
Aloysha, Oxford Brookes student rep.

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Original post by OXBStudentRep
Hi, Thanks for your reply.
I am a second year student and can tell you my experience. In your first year, all the people are very friendly specially when you join as a first year student, everyone wants to make friends. In some case, there may be students who may not engage well but that's ok.. there will be other students who will be wanting to make friends just like you so don't worry. My experience when I first joined Brookes, I introduced my self to my classmates and then I started some open ended questions like ( can you tell me about yourself ?, did you do A levels/BTEC, what made you choice this path and see if you'll have similar opinion or different and just talk) I believe you will be able to make friends soon as you seem quite nice 🙂 Lastly, In my opinion, just be yourself and introduce yourself to everyone and eventually you will be able to find your friend circle.
I hope this helps.
Kind regards
Aloysha, Oxford Brookes student rep.


Thank you so much that’s really helpful!!
Original post by Anonymous
Hi! I’m a year 12 student starting to look at universities and getting an idea of where I’d want to go. I’ve been to Exeter and loved it but after hearing people at my school talking about the types of people who go there, and reading on here about how people struggled to make friends, I’m starting to get nervous! I know it’s VERY early to be thinking about this but as a shy person who takes a while to open up, I’m thinking maybe this isn’t the place for me? Does anyone have any suggestions/experiences of making friends at uni?


Hi Anonymous #1,

As another commenter as said people tend to be very friendly!

My biggest piece of advice would be to push yourself and try and put yourself out there as much as possible. Go to society taster sessions, events run by the Guild, go and do things with your flatmates and course mates etc. Of course, starting uni can be quite overwhelming so make sure to take care of you too. Good friendships take time to form, and if you don’t meet your people right away do not feel disheartened! As long as you’re friendly and pleasant, then you’re going to make friends.

All the best,

Jen,

University of Exeter student ambassador

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Original post by Anonymous
Hi! I’m a year 12 student starting to look at universities and getting an idea of where I’d want to go. I’ve been to Exeter and loved it but after hearing people at my school talking about the types of people who go there, and reading on here about how people struggled to make friends, I’m starting to get nervous! I know it’s VERY early to be thinking about this but as a shy person who takes a while to open up, I’m thinking maybe this isn’t the place for me? Does anyone have any suggestions/experiences of making friends at uni?


hey just remember that everyone will be in the exact same position as you going into uni - it’s a huge place so even if there are people who got in with their friends, the majority will probably not know anyone and want to make new friends. trust me you’ll fit in and meet people - you seem lovely !! i’m exactly like you btw, i’m shy and take a while to open up, and i’ve still made lots of friends with people who are quiet like me as well as people who are louder and more outgoing ! everything will fall into place op <3

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Original post by Anonymous
Hi! I’m a year 12 student starting to look at universities and getting an idea of where I’d want to go. I’ve been to Exeter and loved it but after hearing people at my school talking about the types of people who go there, and reading on here about how people struggled to make friends, I’m starting to get nervous! I know it’s VERY early to be thinking about this but as a shy person who takes a while to open up, I’m thinking maybe this isn’t the place for me? Does anyone have any suggestions/experiences of making friends at uni?

Lots of my students go to Exeter - people love to make mischief for some reason about this uni.

You make friends in hall and on your course - it's not full of snobs and rich people.

Go on an Open Day and find out for yourself!

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