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Never been in a relationship

Hi, so I’ve just been feeling super lonely at the moment. I’m back at uni for the summer and while I have a small, close knit group of friends, I’ve really been yearning a romantic relationship recently, more than I have ever really in the past. I’m turning 20 soon and it dawned on me that I’ve never had a romantic connection with anyone ever, not even a situation-ship, nothing. I thought that when I started uni this would be something that happened easily but it’s not. It’s not that I think there’s something wrong with me, I would like to think I’m an attractive, fun person to be around, though I can’t help thinking why this hasn’t happened to me yet and if it ever will at uni. Anyone feeling similar?

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I think that it's important to always display your true self, and it sounds like your doing an amazing job of that. It can be hard to not have a relationship, I'm in that same situation right now, but you also need to know that the right person will find you, even if it's not anytime soon.
Original post by Anonymous
Hi, so I’ve just been feeling super lonely at the moment. I’m back at uni for the summer and while I have a small, close knit group of friends, I’ve really been yearning a romantic relationship recently, more than I have ever really in the past. I’m turning 20 soon and it dawned on me that I’ve never had a romantic connection with anyone ever, not even a situation-ship, nothing. I thought that when I started uni this would be something that happened easily but it’s not. It’s not that I think there’s something wrong with me, I would like to think I’m an attractive, fun person to be around, though I can’t help thinking why this hasn’t happened to me yet and if it ever will at uni. Anyone feeling similar?

Hey! I hope this discomforting feeling disappears soon.
Perhaps it’s a matter to be straightforward and slowly find a connection with someone as it takes time to be in the right relationship! Like the comment above said, you need to know the right person will find you - or find them yourself.
Be patient and know that your turn will come one day!

I hope everything turns out well for you - good luck. :smile:

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Original post by Anonymous
Hi, so I’ve just been feeling super lonely at the moment. I’m back at uni for the summer and while I have a small, close knit group of friends, I’ve really been yearning a romantic relationship recently, more than I have ever really in the past. I’m turning 20 soon and it dawned on me that I’ve never had a romantic connection with anyone ever, not even a situation-ship, nothing. I thought that when I started uni this would be something that happened easily but it’s not. It’s not that I think there’s something wrong with me, I would like to think I’m an attractive, fun person to be around, though I can’t help thinking why this hasn’t happened to me yet and if it ever will at uni. Anyone feeling similar?

If it hasn't happened by now then it'll never happen at uni. Might as well focus your energy on your studies and forget about a romantic relationship for now.

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