Its just the first day of dating and he has paid for my transport, i was the one who asked him to be my boyfriend, it makes me think he's forcing himself, how should i tell him to not spend too much money on me
for me, I just tell them directly and don’t want them to spend money on me. Or you can splitting the bills or pay each other back when you guys going out. It’s important to have a clear conversation with your partner.
Don't tell him to stop spending so much money on you. Allow him and gently support him to spend as much money as he wants on you.
The nature of love is that we tend to love people more when we do things for them. It's less important how much the other person does for us. Although there are minimums below which most relationships would be put in jeopardy.
The best feeling in the world is when we're falling in love and we think that we've found The Prize and we're doing what we can to win the prize. Don't rob him of that feeling.
So carry on acting like you're The Prize and allow him to put in effort to win you. With gentle support and encouragement of his efforts. EG a smile and a hug and kiss as a thank-you and telling him what a sweet boy he is when he's paid for your train ticket.
BTW whole books have been written on how to act like The Prize - in the right kind of way. You may well act like the right kind of prize by being the most natural version of yourself. Or it could be that a few tweaks here or there will elevate you to that level...
Focus on going on great adventures and mini adventures with him. He sounds like a lovely, well brought up young man.
Its just the first day of dating and he has paid for my transport, i was the one who asked him to be my boyfriend, it makes me think he's forcing himself, how should i tell him to not spend too much money on me
If you can't communicate with someone you are going out with, there's not much hope of a relationship! Just say to him how you would like things, but I don't see that what he is doing is an issue, so be gracious and accept his contributions.
PS. Why did you ask him to be your boyfriend when you hadn't dated? It's the other way round; date, see if you are compatible and if so, get together officially.