Bf of years. No one knows about me

Hey guys I been with my bf 2 years 6 months and my family know of him because I’m still living at home so I have to tell them where I’m going when I stay over. I’m 26 he’s 37. His mum lives abroad with his grandma and his sister lives abroad they’ve never lived In the UK. None of his family know about me because he’s never told me they know. Is this because they don’t live here so he’s not bothered or fussed to say anything or is there a reason. His kids don’t know about me nd neither does the babymum( which I’m fine with that😂)

But yeah is this a red flag????? I mean I’ve met all his friends and stuff but no women In his life know about me.
I was gonna introduce him to my mum as she asked to meet him but now I’m not going to because I’ve thought deeply and thought why would I do that when he hasn’t done it. I also don’t want to bring it up to him because then I’ll be forcing him to introduce me rather than in his time. He’s a grown man so what’s the problem.

Im starting to really think deeply about this. He talks he wants a family and stuff but I’ve said no kids until a ring and in like 6 years not now.

He always says he’s never loved a woman the way he loved me and he hasn’t been with a girl this long apart from his babymum. But I’m just confused how no one knows anything about me fyi he’s close to his sister maybe not about romantic life but yeah it’s his younger sister. Am I just a girl that comes over on the weekends or what 😔

Reply 1

Admit-One

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Am I missing something? If this is you from the other thread, isn't it the case that you expressly don't want anything to do with his family, e.g. kids? Now you're put out that you've not been introduced?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Original post by Admit-One

No it isn’t me. My bf has 1 child

Reply 3

Admit-One

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Original post by Anonymous

No it isn’t me. My bf has 1 child

Just a coincidence of another 9yr age gap relationship then, not to worry and my apologies.

Some people aren't especially close to their family, and might want to avoid any potential drama for bringing these kind of things up.

If he is closer to his sister, why not broach the subject of meeting her? Perfectly normal request after 2.5yrs and might give you a bit more comfort to slowly be introduced. No harm in saying you are starting to feel like it's a bit casual up until now.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Original post by Admit-One

Just a coincidence of another 9yr age gap relationship then, not to worry and my apologies.
Some people aren't especially close to their family, and might want to avoid any potential drama for bringing these kind of things up.
If he is closer to his sister, why not broach the subject of meeting her? Perfectly normal request after 2.5yrs and might give you a bit more comfort to slowly be introduced. No harm in saying you are starting to feel like it's a bit casual up until now.

Haha no problems.

His sister lives in USA that’s the thing

Reply 5

jay2013

Jesus Christ. I'm nearly 35 years old, never been loved, never been in a relationship, never kissed a girl, never had sex, I have no dating experience whatsoever.

And despite all of this, even I can see that this guy thinks of you as a side piece. You seriously need to wake up.