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What should I do when I strongly disagree with my friend’s actions?

Hello. This is gonna be long😅 Recently my close mate had been continuously sleeping with a man who has a girlfriend (She knew he had a girlfriend). The first time she told me, I told her that it’s so wrong!! I was so shocked yet she didn’t see any issue with it. I keep telling her that it’s wrong, that i’m disappointed, that’s he’s simply using her and I wish she would stop. But she still did it for MONTHS on end. To make matters worse, she would tell me about how much she hates the girlfriend. And i just don’t understand how she could hate someone who has done absolutely nothing to her, if anything it’s the girlfriend who should hate her!! She kept saying this is the love of her life, her soulmate. I would always ask her “A man who never asked you out on a date is your soulmate?? A man who proudly cheats??” She wanted him to make her his girlfriend. I was so confused as to why you’d want a man like that as your boyfriend . Anyways, by the end of it he ended up getting bored and went back to his girlfriend. I told her “I told you so”. Yet she still took pride in what she did, saying she didn’t regret it and I could tell that she saw it as some sort of “achievement” that she got to meet his parents. Anyways, throughout this whole situation, I was upset. It made me upset that she would act in such a way, and I don’t even know why. Even though I am Christian and she is not, I still respect her and don’t force any of my beliefs onto her. I am just striving to become a better person. But I don’t know why this whole situation made me feel weird towards her. I am trying my best not to judge, because who am i to judge? But I can’t help but question her actions, especially because they made me upset. Does anyone know why I feel this way? Whilst she was doing it, I felt so upset and down. At the end of the day she is my friend, and I do care for her. But now that she’s stopped but still sees little wrong in what she did, I feel like distancing myself from her. 1 Corinthians 15:33 say that ‘Bad company corrupts good character”. I’m just overwhelmed with my emotions now and what to do.
What a *****
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Original post by Anonymous
What a *****


I’m confused whether you’re referring to me? Or my friend?
Original post by Anonymous
I’m confused whether you’re referring to me? Or my friend?

the friend
The friend is wrong. I would try to explain what they do wrong but it seems you've tried already to no avail. I do respect you're Christian, and being religious myself, I am happy to get rid of friends who are exhibiting similar behaviour but do not listen for the sake of my own morals. Don't cut them off, don't resent them, just tell them you will be there when they mature.
the friend is wrong, i am not christian but she is behaving immaturely and delusionaly. You dont want her to give you the idea that its ok to do stuff like this or to normalise bad relationships for you, it could hurt you or ruin your relationships in the future.

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