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I'm scared to have sex m24

I've never been intimate before and I'm trying to date but I have this crippling fear that I'm not going to be good at it due to my less than impressive manhood. People have made fun of me for it before and I don't think I could handle it if it happened in my first intimate experience.

Edit- thanks for all the help everyone i understand that it's probably going to be not great but I've looked up some anatomy books and hopefully I can impress with some oral skills instead.
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Original post by Jakeymakeycakey
I've never been intimate before and I'm trying to date but I have this crippling fear that I'm not going to be good at it due to my less than impressive manhood. People have made fun of me for it before and I don't think I could handle it if it happened in my first intimate experience.
youll be fine it cant be that small people always make fun of others for this stuff youll be alright
Original post by Anonymous
youll be fine it cant be that small people always make fun of others for this stuff youll be alright

Its about one and half inches below the uk avg in length and 1 inch less in girth.
Original post by Jakeymakeycakey
Its about one and half inches below the uk avg in length and 1 inch less in girth.

youll be fine girls dont think about it as much as you do, you cant do anything about it anyway man you're overthinking it
Original post by Anonymous
youll be fine girls dont think about it as much as you do, you cant do anything about it anyway man you're overthinking it
I hope so
Original post by Jakeymakeycakey
I've never been intimate before and I'm trying to date but I have this crippling fear that I'm not going to be good at it due to my less than impressive manhood. People have made fun of me for it before and I don't think I could handle it if it happened in my first intimate experience.

there’s no pressure to have sex. do it in your own time and with the right person. trust me, when you really like them, it doesn’t matter to both parties.
Original post by Jakeymakeycakey
I've never been intimate before and I'm trying to date but I have this crippling fear that I'm not going to be good at it due to my less than impressive manhood. People have made fun of me for it before and I don't think I could handle it if it happened in my first intimate experience.

The first time is always awkward so just do your best. As for manhood, a lot of women prefer average guys because larger ones make them sore or hurts them. I'm 2 inches above average and trust me, it only makes prolonged intimacy uncomfortable.
Original post by MatticusAndron
The first time is always awkward so just do your best. As for manhood, a lot of women prefer average guys because larger ones make them sore or hurts them. I'm 2 inches above average and trust me, it only makes prolonged intimacy uncomfortable.

I get you but I'd definitely take above average over a borderline micro penis
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Original post by Jakeymakeycakey
I've never been intimate before and I'm trying to date but I have this crippling fear that I'm not going to be good at it due to my less than impressive manhood. People have made fun of me for it before and I don't think I could handle it if it happened in my first intimate experience.

Why how big is it
Original post by Trim you
Why how big is it

he said about 3.6 inches
Original post by Anonymous
he said about 3.6 inches

That is a bit small i have a friend is the same and he meets a lot of girls
Original post by Jakeymakeycakey
I've never been intimate before and I'm trying to date but I have this crippling fear that I'm not going to be good at it due to my less than impressive manhood. People have made fun of me for it before and I don't think I could handle it if it happened in my first intimate experience.

Forget the worry, on that try Hypnotherapy to get over the fear, it does work. Get her (the Therapist) to imagine you have 12 inches and will be ok. Other than that try oral sex,vibrator (buy one) ,fingers etc, as there is nothing worse for ladies than the man getting pleasure but the lady left with zero pleasure. Seriously ,concentrate on the things I have suggested and get her to orgasm, then she wont worry if you 1 inch or 1 ft. If it works out let the thread know for others to be inspired.
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Original post by Jakeymakeycakey
I get you but I'd definitely take above average over a borderline micro penis

Watch a brief video on female anatomy first so you can get a brief idea of where the clit is and then work from there.
32F here - try not to worry so much about your size, you can still do great things with it. Great sex is not all about penetration.

Learn and practice foreplay. A woman’s body has erogenous zones all over it (give it a google) and it’s more important to stimulate and play with these areas than focussing all your energy on the ‘main event’.

Most women will be much happier with sex that is a bit varied, hitting and stimulating lots of areas, than sex that is just all about penetration. Boring!

Some women might complain, but that just means your styles and bodies are not suited to each other. So move on and just enjoy your next encounter! Plus some women are smaller and/or tighter down there than others, and will prefer your size over average/large.

It’s all about compatibility 😊

Just have fun, be safe, experiment and remember to do plenty of foreplay, she’ll thank for you it! 😊
Original post by Anonymous
32F here - try not to worry so much about your size, you can still do great things with it. Great sex is not all about penetration.
Learn and practice foreplay. A woman’s body has erogenous zones all over it (give it a google) and it’s more important to stimulate and play with these areas than focussing all your energy on the ‘main event’.
Most women will be much happier with sex that is a bit varied, hitting and stimulating lots of areas, than sex that is just all about penetration. Boring!
Some women might complain, but that just means your styles and bodies are not suited to each other. So move on and just enjoy your next encounter! Plus some women are smaller and/or tighter down there than others, and will prefer your size over average/large.
It’s all about compatibility 😊
Just have fun, be safe, experiment and remember to do plenty of foreplay, she’ll thank for you it! 😊


Also you can pretty much ignore what you seen in porn. It’s all way over the top and pretty much ridiculous. It’s all for the camera and most of what you see in porn wouldn’t actually feel good or make for good sex!
Original post by Anonymous
32F here - try not to worry so much about your size, you can still do great things with it. Great sex is not all about penetration.
Learn and practice foreplay. A woman’s body has erogenous zones all over it (give it a google) and it’s more important to stimulate and play with these areas than focussing all your energy on the ‘main event’.
Most women will be much happier with sex that is a bit varied, hitting and stimulating lots of areas, than sex that is just all about penetration. Boring!
Some women might complain, but that just means your styles and bodies are not suited to each other. So move on and just enjoy your next encounter! Plus some women are smaller and/or tighter down there than others, and will prefer your size over average/large.
It’s all about compatibility 😊
Just have fun, be safe, experiment and remember to do plenty of foreplay, she’ll thank for you it! 😊


Oh and, some women struggle to orgasm altogether so don’t think that if she doesn’t that she definitely hasn’t enjoyed it.

If a women struggles to reach orgasm and you make it a target, it can be off putting as it puts a lot of pressure on it for her and she’ll feel like a failure!

Ask what she likes and do that. Communication really helps. The focus should be that you’re both just enjoying yourselves and the whole event.

Okay I’m done now 🤣
Original post by Jakeymakeycakey
I've never been intimate before and I'm trying to date but I have this crippling fear that I'm not going to be good at it due to my less than impressive manhood. People have made fun of me for it before and I don't think I could handle it if it happened in my first intimate experience.

don't worry i never had sex i'm 18 male and i feel scared because i don't know what to do
Original post by Anonymous
Oh and, some women struggle to orgasm altogether so don’t think that if she doesn’t that she definitely hasn’t enjoyed it.
If a women struggles to reach orgasm and you make it a target, it can be off putting as it puts a lot of pressure on it for her and she’ll feel like a failure!
Ask what she likes and do that. Communication really helps. The focus should be that you’re both just enjoying yourselves and the whole event.
Okay I’m done now 🤣

Wouldn't she cheat on me if I have a small penis. Lots of my friends said women only stay with people who can satisfy their physical and emotional needs?
Original post by Jakeymakeycakey
Wouldn't she cheat on me if I have a small penis. Lots of my friends said women only stay with people who can satisfy their physical and emotional needs?


I think only *******s cheat.
Personally I would never ever do that to anyone.

Relationships do need to be emotionally and physically fulfilling, but as said before that’s not dependant on your penis size.

You have the ability to be a far superior lover if you focus having skills in foreplay etc than a guy who is just bigger but doesn’t really know how to do any of the other stuff.

Men put a lot more importance on size than any (decent) woman does. If a woman is put off by your size alone she’s not someone worth being with anyway!
Original post by Anonymous
I think only *******s cheat.
Personally I would never ever do that to anyone.
Relationships do need to be emotionally and physically fulfilling, but as said before that’s not dependant on your penis size.
You have the ability to be a far superior lover if you focus having skills in foreplay etc than a guy who is just bigger but doesn’t really know how to do any of the other stuff.
Men put a lot more importance on size than any (decent) woman does. If a woman is put off by your size alone she’s not someone worth being with anyway!

OK I get you so it's like having a fast car kinda. Like it'll get there faster but you don't need it to make the journey

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