My bf requires constant praise
So my partner needs constant admiration. It got to the point, when it is absolutely exhausting. I’ve never met guy like him before.
1) He had to know, if he has a biggest penis out of every guy I‘ve ever slept with. Got angry when I didn’t know
2) Than if he is the best guy I‘ ve ever had in bed.
3) If he is the most beautiful guy I’ve ever been with
4) He was concered, because I don’t borrow his clothes (he is bigger than me and I don’t wear oversized) and his previous girlfriends did. In his opinion I don’t appreciate his fashion sense enough (he never appreciated mine). I tell him almost every day, that he looks good.
5) He got mad because in his opion I don’t ask him enough about his education, because he went to the prestigious college. I asked him about it in the beggining and I also tell him that he is super smart guy multiple times a week, but I don’t know why we should be talking about this constantly
6) He told me that if there was ever a movie made about him, his character would be played by cilian murphy because he's just as hot as he is. I agreed and he got angry, because I should say, that he is more hot than Cilian
7) One time I told him that he is the best boyfriend and he got mad, because I didn’t say the best and the only one, in his opinion it means that there is other guy below him and I should just only praise him
The list could go on… I feel like I appreciate him enough. My former partners never have problem with my adoration towards them. I know that everyone has different needs, but this feels over the top to me.
He is also bragging all the time how girls are approching him almost every day, how his IQ is 160 (despite the fact he never took an IQ test). One time he even told me that I should be thankful, because he wants to be in a relationship with me and not just to hook up. That ****ed me off absolutely.
He is also absolutely jealous. I can’t even sit next to a guy in a public transport without him making a scene. He gets mad when my male flatemate says hello to me.
I don’t know what to do anymore. Is this normal?
1) He had to know, if he has a biggest penis out of every guy I‘ve ever slept with. Got angry when I didn’t know
2) Than if he is the best guy I‘ ve ever had in bed.
3) If he is the most beautiful guy I’ve ever been with
4) He was concered, because I don’t borrow his clothes (he is bigger than me and I don’t wear oversized) and his previous girlfriends did. In his opinion I don’t appreciate his fashion sense enough (he never appreciated mine). I tell him almost every day, that he looks good.
5) He got mad because in his opion I don’t ask him enough about his education, because he went to the prestigious college. I asked him about it in the beggining and I also tell him that he is super smart guy multiple times a week, but I don’t know why we should be talking about this constantly
6) He told me that if there was ever a movie made about him, his character would be played by cilian murphy because he's just as hot as he is. I agreed and he got angry, because I should say, that he is more hot than Cilian
7) One time I told him that he is the best boyfriend and he got mad, because I didn’t say the best and the only one, in his opinion it means that there is other guy below him and I should just only praise him
The list could go on… I feel like I appreciate him enough. My former partners never have problem with my adoration towards them. I know that everyone has different needs, but this feels over the top to me.
He is also bragging all the time how girls are approching him almost every day, how his IQ is 160 (despite the fact he never took an IQ test). One time he even told me that I should be thankful, because he wants to be in a relationship with me and not just to hook up. That ****ed me off absolutely.
He is also absolutely jealous. I can’t even sit next to a guy in a public transport without him making a scene. He gets mad when my male flatemate says hello to me.
I don’t know what to do anymore. Is this normal?
excuse me what 💀
reading this got me so ****ed off honestly. your boyfriend is a self-obsessed, arrgoant CHILD. sorry to say this, but he doesn't deserve you one bit. from what i'm hearing, this guy is probably only with you because it makes HIM look good to have someone as amazing as you to be his girlfriend. he probably doesn't even realise how amazing you are for just DEALING with his presence (because i sure do). don't take anything he's saying to you, and the fact he gets angry at you for the smallest things is pretty concerning. he definitely has a bunch of issues when it comes to his personality, because i honestly can't believe you've dealt with this for this long. i would have dipped time ago 😭.
this is not normal at ALL. a good boyfriend should reciprocate the affection you give towards him, a good boyfriend would make the effort to understand you and your love languages, a good boyfriend would communicate with you when he was upset or if he had an issue and not blame you for everything. a good boyfriend would talk to you if he feels any jealousy so that you guys can have a conversation and settle things down, a good boyfriend would appreciate you and not just force you to appreciate him. a good boyfriend wouldn't make the whole relationship about himself, and he certainly wouldn't make you feel small just to make himself feel big. basically, your boyfriend is astoundingly trash at being a boyfriend- and a decent person (in the nicest way possible).
he definitely has an ego problem in my opinion, and he seems like he desperately needs someone to fuel his ego- because the smallest thing can make him feel like he doesn't have as much power or control. when you said that he asked you whether he had the biggest d out of every guy you've slept with, if he's the best you've had in bed, if he's the most beautiful guy you've been with- i visibly cringed. and when you said that he had the nerve to tell you that YOU should be grateful that he's in a relationship with you and that he doesn't just want to hook up- i gasped i won't lie. i would have broken up with him on the SPOT. if he can't accept that your life doesn't revolve around him then you better break up with him, or find a way to end this- because it really won't be healthy for you, and by the looks of it, you're straining yourself out trying to keep up with his constant demands and standards for you. words of affirmation and appreciation are good, but that's not what this is. he's just using you to fuel his ego, and it really shows how selfish this guy is. you're worth way more than a guy like that, trust me : )
reading this got me so ****ed off honestly. your boyfriend is a self-obsessed, arrgoant CHILD. sorry to say this, but he doesn't deserve you one bit. from what i'm hearing, this guy is probably only with you because it makes HIM look good to have someone as amazing as you to be his girlfriend. he probably doesn't even realise how amazing you are for just DEALING with his presence (because i sure do). don't take anything he's saying to you, and the fact he gets angry at you for the smallest things is pretty concerning. he definitely has a bunch of issues when it comes to his personality, because i honestly can't believe you've dealt with this for this long. i would have dipped time ago 😭.
this is not normal at ALL. a good boyfriend should reciprocate the affection you give towards him, a good boyfriend would make the effort to understand you and your love languages, a good boyfriend would communicate with you when he was upset or if he had an issue and not blame you for everything. a good boyfriend would talk to you if he feels any jealousy so that you guys can have a conversation and settle things down, a good boyfriend would appreciate you and not just force you to appreciate him. a good boyfriend wouldn't make the whole relationship about himself, and he certainly wouldn't make you feel small just to make himself feel big. basically, your boyfriend is astoundingly trash at being a boyfriend- and a decent person (in the nicest way possible).
he definitely has an ego problem in my opinion, and he seems like he desperately needs someone to fuel his ego- because the smallest thing can make him feel like he doesn't have as much power or control. when you said that he asked you whether he had the biggest d out of every guy you've slept with, if he's the best you've had in bed, if he's the most beautiful guy you've been with- i visibly cringed. and when you said that he had the nerve to tell you that YOU should be grateful that he's in a relationship with you and that he doesn't just want to hook up- i gasped i won't lie. i would have broken up with him on the SPOT. if he can't accept that your life doesn't revolve around him then you better break up with him, or find a way to end this- because it really won't be healthy for you, and by the looks of it, you're straining yourself out trying to keep up with his constant demands and standards for you. words of affirmation and appreciation are good, but that's not what this is. he's just using you to fuel his ego, and it really shows how selfish this guy is. you're worth way more than a guy like that, trust me : )
(edited 12 months ago)
I initially went into this thinking there was some insecurity issues at play but it appears to be more than that.
I definitely think he has an ego problem going on, especially with caring so much on about his penis size and comparing his hotness to cillian Murphy. There's being self confident and then there's bordering on egoistic and narcissistic.
The fact he doesn't even like you sitting next to guys on public transport says controlling to me and trust me that's something you don't want to go through.
In my opinion he's probably using you for an ego boost and I think it's best to move along. If you really want to make it work you need to put your foot down and tell him what he needs to change, but understand that he probably won't and will just take offence instead. And be prepared to walk if he doesn't change.
You're worth way more than that and you deserve to receive everything you're giving back x
I definitely think he has an ego problem going on, especially with caring so much on about his penis size and comparing his hotness to cillian Murphy. There's being self confident and then there's bordering on egoistic and narcissistic.
The fact he doesn't even like you sitting next to guys on public transport says controlling to me and trust me that's something you don't want to go through.
In my opinion he's probably using you for an ego boost and I think it's best to move along. If you really want to make it work you need to put your foot down and tell him what he needs to change, but understand that he probably won't and will just take offence instead. And be prepared to walk if he doesn't change.
You're worth way more than that and you deserve to receive everything you're giving back x
Original post by itsadara
excuse me what 💀
reading this got me so ****ed off honestly. your boyfriend is a self-obsessed, arrgoant CHILD. sorry to say this, but he doesn't deserve you one bit. from what i'm hearing, this guy is probably only with you because it makes HIM look good to have someone as amazing as you to be his girlfriend. he probably doesn't even realise how amazing you are for just DEALING with his presence (because i sure do). don't take anything he's saying to you, and the fact he gets angry at you for the smallest things is pretty concerning. he definitely has a bunch of issues when it comes to his personality, because i honestly can't believe you've dealt with this for this long. i would have dipped time ago 😭.
this is not normal at ALL. a good boyfriend should reciprocate the affection you give towards him, a good boyfriend would make the effort to understand you and your love languages, a good boyfriend would communicate with you when he was upset or if he had an issue and not blame you for everything. a good boyfriend would talk to you if he feels any jealousy so that you guys can have a conversation and settle things down, a good boyfriend would appreciate you and not just force you to appreciate him. a good boyfriend wouldn't make the whole relationship about himself, and he certainly wouldn't make you feel small just to make himself feel big. basically, your boyfriend is astoundingly trash at being a boyfriend- and a decent person (in the nicest way possible).
he definitely has an ego problem in my opinion, and he seems like he desperately needs someone to fuel his ego- because the smallest thing can make him feel like he doesn't have as much power or control. when you said that he asked you whether he had the biggest d out of every guy you've slept with, if he's the best you've had in bed, if he's the most beautiful guy you've been with- i visibly cringed. and when you said that he had the nerve to tell you that YOU should be grateful that he's in a relationship with you and that he doesn't just want to hook up- i gasped i won't lie. i would have broken up with him on the SPOT. if he can't accept that your life doesn't revolve around him then you better break up with him, or find a way to end this- because it really won't be healthy for you, and by the looks of it, you're straining yourself out trying to keep up with his constant demands and standards for you. words of affirmation and appreciation are good, but that's not what this is. he's just using you to fuel his ego, and it really shows how selfish this guy is. you're worth way more than a guy like that, trust me : )
reading this got me so ****ed off honestly. your boyfriend is a self-obsessed, arrgoant CHILD. sorry to say this, but he doesn't deserve you one bit. from what i'm hearing, this guy is probably only with you because it makes HIM look good to have someone as amazing as you to be his girlfriend. he probably doesn't even realise how amazing you are for just DEALING with his presence (because i sure do). don't take anything he's saying to you, and the fact he gets angry at you for the smallest things is pretty concerning. he definitely has a bunch of issues when it comes to his personality, because i honestly can't believe you've dealt with this for this long. i would have dipped time ago 😭.
this is not normal at ALL. a good boyfriend should reciprocate the affection you give towards him, a good boyfriend would make the effort to understand you and your love languages, a good boyfriend would communicate with you when he was upset or if he had an issue and not blame you for everything. a good boyfriend would talk to you if he feels any jealousy so that you guys can have a conversation and settle things down, a good boyfriend would appreciate you and not just force you to appreciate him. a good boyfriend wouldn't make the whole relationship about himself, and he certainly wouldn't make you feel small just to make himself feel big. basically, your boyfriend is astoundingly trash at being a boyfriend- and a decent person (in the nicest way possible).
he definitely has an ego problem in my opinion, and he seems like he desperately needs someone to fuel his ego- because the smallest thing can make him feel like he doesn't have as much power or control. when you said that he asked you whether he had the biggest d out of every guy you've slept with, if he's the best you've had in bed, if he's the most beautiful guy you've been with- i visibly cringed. and when you said that he had the nerve to tell you that YOU should be grateful that he's in a relationship with you and that he doesn't just want to hook up- i gasped i won't lie. i would have broken up with him on the SPOT. if he can't accept that your life doesn't revolve around him then you better break up with him, or find a way to end this- because it really won't be healthy for you, and by the looks of it, you're straining yourself out trying to keep up with his constant demands and standards for you. words of affirmation and appreciation are good, but that's not what this is. he's just using you to fuel his ego, and it really shows how selfish this guy is. you're worth way more than a guy like that, trust me : )
girl i agree with everything that was said. dump that guy because it'll just take a toll on you and he needs therapy
Reply 4
Your narcissistic boyfriend fits the profile of someone that would kill you or throw acid over your face when you leave him.
Take appropriate precautions to maximise the chances of you getting out of this with your life and limbs intact.
Assume that everything he tells you is a lie. Especially if he says stuff like "I would never harm you." Or "Meet me at my place to get your stuff back". Or "I promise I won't do it again."
Take appropriate precautions to maximise the chances of you getting out of this with your life and limbs intact.
Assume that everything he tells you is a lie. Especially if he says stuff like "I would never harm you." Or "Meet me at my place to get your stuff back". Or "I promise I won't do it again."
Reply 5
He's looking to control you by undermining you and the things you say. Whatever you do say about him seemingly isn't good enough.
Sooner or later he'll be telling you that you're lucky to even be his GF as there are plenty out there that would do X, Y or Z just for a chance. Then it will progress to "So if you want to stay you'll need to do better..."
Time to get your stuff out before it gets too toxic.
Find someone marginally less beautiful who appreciates you for being you and not just as an accessory to him. Someone who wants to tell you how good your style is, how you look and asks what you want to do or finds ways to make you happy and puts a smile on your face.
Sooner or later he'll be telling you that you're lucky to even be his GF as there are plenty out there that would do X, Y or Z just for a chance. Then it will progress to "So if you want to stay you'll need to do better..."
Time to get your stuff out before it gets too toxic.
Find someone marginally less beautiful who appreciates you for being you and not just as an accessory to him. Someone who wants to tell you how good your style is, how you look and asks what you want to do or finds ways to make you happy and puts a smile on your face.
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