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I'm 17 she's 15

Well as the title says I'm 17 currently dating a 15 year old which I believe acceptable however the problem comes when I turn 18 in June. The age gap between us is 2 yrs and a few months as she does not turn 16 till November.

That leaves us with that weird gap in summer where we she's 15 and I'm 18. We will undoubtedly meet up and kiss and cuddle. However not going as far as sex or anything of that sort.

I'm am simply asking for advice on what to do in this situation and whether I should continue the relationship or what.
I'd wait a bit longer for that kind of age gap because being 18 is a big deal, legally, when it comes to being in relationships.
Being 17 dating a 15 year old is just as bad as 18 and 15. Two years is a big age gap maturity wise, at 18 myself now, the person I was at 15 is no where in the slightest me now and I reckon you could say the same for urself. Just a bit stupid
Why are you attracted to a 15 year old when you're almost 18? She legally CANNOT consent right now and you know that.

You are considered an adult by law when you turn 18 whereas she is not. To me that'll raise questions as to if you're grooming her or not.
Why can't you find someone your own age?
I think everyone here is being slightly too harsh. To be fair, the age is a problem however most problems do have solutions. Honestly, in this situation it might be best to take a break from the relationship but stay in touch as friends. This means no kissing and cuddling etc. When she is of consenting age and you are still interested in each other, which I'm sure you will be you can resume your relationship! Good luck
Original post by Anonymous
I think everyone here is being slightly too harsh. To be fair, the age is a problem however most problems do have solutions. Honestly, in this situation it might be best to take a break from the relationship but stay in touch as friends. This means no kissing and cuddling etc. When she is of consenting age and you are still interested in each other, which I'm sure you will be you can resume your relationship! Good luck

Staying friends while she's 15 and basically waiting for her to be a more appropriate age would be very questionable , and again borderline grooming
Original post by Anonymous
Staying friends while she's 15 and basically waiting for her to be a more appropriate age would be very questionable , and again borderline grooming

Its not really questionable, people are friends of that age gap all the time although I do see where you are coming from and how that can be controversial. A lot of people make a huge deal of this but I'm quite used to it most of the girls in my school have this type of age gap however I myself don't date. It is better to stay friends because getting tangled in the webs of consent is not a good route at all, and being in a relationship may pressure the need for that type of stuff.
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Original post by Anonymous
Staying friends while she's 15 and basically waiting for her to be a more appropriate age would be very questionable , and again borderline grooming

Lol it becomes even more weirder if they remained friends he be a mature developing adult she’s yet to mature and she’s still 15 yeah that makes no sense
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Original post by Anonymous
Its not really questionable, people are friends of that age gap all the time although I do see where you are coming from and how that can be controversial. A lot of people make a huge deal of this but I'm quite used to it most of the girls in my school have this type of age gap however I myself don't date. It is better to stay friends because getting tangled in the webs of consent is not a good route at all, and being in a relationship may pressure the need for that type of stuff.

With respect you sound too young to understand how weird it is. It's a huge deal because some people around that age are of legal age, and being considered as an adult, while others aren't. OP is a weirdo
I think what's more of an issue is that you are in Year 13 and she is in Year 10.
Original post by Anonymous
Well as the title says I'm 17 currently dating a 15 year old which I believe acceptable however the problem comes when I turn 18 in June. The age gap between us is 2 yrs and a few months as she does not turn 16 till November.
That leaves us with that weird gap in summer where we she's 15 and I'm 18. We will undoubtedly meet up and kiss and cuddle. However not going as far as sex or anything of that sort.
I'm am simply asking for advice on what to do in this situation and whether I should continue the relationship or what.

my teacher spoke about this - he goes if you are 18 and you like a 16 yr old, you can go on dates and stuff but you shouldn't have sex. if anything does happen, the court will look into the case but nothing should occur if you have been in a longstanding relationship. as far as I'm aware, u can still go out, just don't have sex
Original post by Anonymous
my teacher spoke about this - he goes if you are 18 and you like a 16 yr old, you can go on dates and stuff but you shouldn't have sex. if anything does happen, the court will look into the case but nothing should occur if you have been in a longstanding relationship. as far as I'm aware, u can still go out, just don't have sex

16 is the age of consent in the UK. What are you talking about?
Original post by Anonymous
Well as the title says I'm 17 currently dating a 15 year old which I believe acceptable however the problem comes when I turn 18 in June. The age gap between us is 2 yrs and a few months as she does not turn 16 till November.
That leaves us with that weird gap in summer where we she's 15 and I'm 18. We will undoubtedly meet up and kiss and cuddle. However not going as far as sex or anything of that sort.
I'm am simply asking for advice on what to do in this situation and whether I should continue the relationship or what.

Just put the relationship "on hold", like a break, until she's 16. This specific age gap ain't that deep but yeah I'm sure she'd understand. Either way as long as you're not actually doing stuff it's not illegal.
Original post by Anonymous
Well as the title says I'm 17 currently dating a 15 year old which I believe acceptable however the problem comes when I turn 18 in June. The age gap between us is 2 yrs and a few months as she does not turn 16 till November.
That leaves us with that weird gap in summer where we she's 15 and I'm 18. We will undoubtedly meet up and kiss and cuddle. However not going as far as sex or anything of that sort.
I'm am simply asking for advice on what to do in this situation and whether I should continue the relationship or what.

Break up so you don't get done for child grooming
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when ur 18 i wouldnt have a relationship like that till shes 16 when she can be with you

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