I feel like a horrible person
I know I sometimes go too far, and I am working on it.
My problem is that I like teasing people in general (in a fun way without any harm), but sometimes, I go too far by annoying them and get told off about it.
To be honest, people telling me off set me straight into line again - as I don't want to overstep boundaries once more.
However, every time I get told off, I cry it all out when I'm alone because I feel like I am a horrible person.
Does anyone know what I can do to improve myself?
I hate knowing that the characteristics that evolved in me over time feel annoying to some.
I want to be better and have tried but I can't help myself and joke around.
Side note: I have a huge exam tomorrow, and I was told off about 5 minutes ago by my boyfriend for joking too much about someone's failed attempt at making granola (it ended up having a suspicious and funny look to it).
My problem is that I like teasing people in general (in a fun way without any harm), but sometimes, I go too far by annoying them and get told off about it.
To be honest, people telling me off set me straight into line again - as I don't want to overstep boundaries once more.
However, every time I get told off, I cry it all out when I'm alone because I feel like I am a horrible person.
Does anyone know what I can do to improve myself?
I hate knowing that the characteristics that evolved in me over time feel annoying to some.
I want to be better and have tried but I can't help myself and joke around.
Side note: I have a huge exam tomorrow, and I was told off about 5 minutes ago by my boyfriend for joking too much about someone's failed attempt at making granola (it ended up having a suspicious and funny look to it).
Reply 1
This sounds a lot like me too. However, I have a friend who is very much the same so it's not much of an issue. Maybe try speaking to the people that are getting offended? Try explaining that you don't mean to and it too makes you upset. It doesn't make you a horrible person though.
Reply 2
Original post by Anonymous
This sounds a lot like me too. However, I have a friend who is very much the same so it's not much of an issue. Maybe try speaking to the people that are getting offended? Try explaining that you don't mean to and it too makes you upset. It doesn't make you a horrible person though.
Okay, thanks for the advice!
A couple of times I had a talk with some people and told them I didn’t mean it and I’m sorry for offending them. However I was greeted with the annoyed tone of “you can’t always be like this” or “you’re just rude, you’ll never change”, etc…
Glad that you replied and thanks again.
Reply 3
teasing people is normal just don't be doing it everyday it can get people mad
Reply 4
I have the same problem 😭. And I’m a massive overthinker so even if they don’t say it’s annoying I will make myself think every1 hates me when they don’t. They don’t really tell me off but I can tell it sometimes gets annoying
It's good that you are self aware enough to realise you are annoying people.
What might help is everytime you want to 'tease' someone, imagine it is you rather than the other person the teasing is directed at, persistently, and consider whether you still find it funny? this might help you realise whilst it may have started out as funny it actually starts to grate and be upsetting to the person at the receiving end and stop you from doing it.
What might help is everytime you want to 'tease' someone, imagine it is you rather than the other person the teasing is directed at, persistently, and consider whether you still find it funny? this might help you realise whilst it may have started out as funny it actually starts to grate and be upsetting to the person at the receiving end and stop you from doing it.
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