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[gay dating] I don't want to join Armed Forces but I want to have a military bf/husba

[gay dating] I don't want to join the Armed Forces but I want to have a military bf/husband. However, military guys (including royal guards for me) barely use Grinder, Tinder or any other commonly used dating apps. I don't know as a civilian how should I get started?

And another question is: Is policeman a good option of bf/husband? I have a cousin who is a policeman, and I think his mental health has significantly declined just in the first 6 months upon graduating from police academy and swearing in, because he has to face crime everyday and also the organizational culture in the police department is toxic. But I can't convince him to quit, because being police is his holy vocation and passion. So I wonder if I open to having a police bf/husband will I put both of my eggs into one basket? (Again, I'm in the health science/science occupations, so I don't know the police industry much).

I thought about to post in the Armed Forces section under Careers and Jobs board because most armed forces people on this website are there, but I feel my post would be deleted because it is not career related (unless being the housewife of my future military husband will be my career).

Reply 1

artful_lounger

Universities Forum Helper

Why is the occupation of a future partner such an important factor here?

Reply 2

SMEGGGY

It's the uniform isn't it

Reply 3

ksj1526

Original post by artful_lounger

Why is the occupation of a future partner such an important factor here?

One of the reasons is a military man or policeman as my bf/husband making me feel safer.

Reply 4

ksj1526

Original post by SMEGGGY

It's the uniform isn't it

This is another reason, but only military or police uniform does the charm for me.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

I actually can’t believe what I’m reading here lol. Focus on personality mate.

Reply 6

ksj1526

Original post by Anonymous

I actually can’t believe what I’m reading here lol. Focus on personality mate.

I am - the military personality is another reason that I prefer a military man - being tough, loyal, reliable etc.

Reply 7

StriderHort

Original post by ksj1526

I am - the military personality is another reason that I prefer a military man - being tough, loyal, reliable etc.

This is fantasy bro, anyone can have those virtues and expecting someone's professional and home life to match up is unreliable to say the least.

Dating police and esp soldiers seems to be v stressful and takes a lot of work as it's a very specific lifestyle in terms of duties, responsibilities and time away, how much have you really considered this?

Reply 8

ksj1526

Original post by striderhort

This is fantasy bro, anyone can have those virtues and expecting someone's professional and home life to match up is unreliable to say the least.
Dating police and esp soldiers seems to be v stressful and takes a lot of work as it's a very specific lifestyle in terms of duties, responsibilities and time away, how much have you really considered this?

I'm a health and science professional myself. So I don't need other people to lecture me about the impact of stressful professional demand upon private life.