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How common is it to be in a relationship during uni? Is it more common in 1st, 2nd, 3rd? or 4th? or is it common to find a relationship when you have a fulltime job
Really depends on everyone. I met mine in second year by chance and I know people that went through all uni without being with anyone. I would say don’t stress out too much about it
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I never had a relationship at university.
I've never had a relationship after getting a full-time job.
I've never had a relationship, ever.
But I'm a mentally and psychologically broken man, so it's very likely I'm the odd one out.
Reply 3
Original post by jay2013
I never had a relationship at university.
I've never had a relationship after getting a full-time job.
I've never had a relationship, ever.
But I'm a mentally and psychologically broken man, so it's very likely I'm the odd one out.

Mr Mourinho, you aren’t the odd one out. You just prioritised the stuff you wanted or needed, so it may have turned out good for you if you weren’t in a relationship at uni. I don’t think you’re mentally broken, if you think so, please ask those close to you for advice and stuff. Just ask yourself a question, why am I doing this and what is the purpose of my life? If you can answer those, there’s nothing that can stop you from being successful, and if you do want a relationship, it may be easier than you think for you. Find the right person and BELIEVE!!!!!! You aren’t a broken man!!!!
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Original post by too.lost
Mr Mourinho, you aren’t the odd one out. You just prioritised the stuff you wanted or needed, so it may have turned out good for you if you weren’t in a relationship at uni. I don’t think you’re mentally broken, if you think so, please ask those close to you for advice and stuff. Just ask yourself a question, why am I doing this and what is the purpose of my life? If you can answer those, there’s nothing that can stop you from being successful, and if you do want a relationship, it may be easier than you think for you. Find the right person and BELIEVE!!!!!! You aren’t a broken man!!!!

I have only loved one woman in my life but she decided to marry my former flat mate and former friend. I found out about their relationship on Facebook when I saw their engagement photo, then a year later I saw their wedding day photos, and now recently I've seen their family photo with their children.

Seeing them together has broken me mentally and psychologically. Next year will be their 10 year wedding anniversary. I've liked other women over the years but none of them liked me back. I feel real despair and emotionally drained at trying to move on and find someone who I like and who likes me. For the past 10 years I've felt worthless.
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Original post by jay2013
I have only loved one woman in my life but she decided to marry my former flat mate and former friend. I found out about their relationship on Facebook when I saw their engagement photo, then a year later I saw their wedding day photos, and now recently I've seen their family photo with their children.
Seeing them together has broken me mentally and psychologically. Next year will be their 10 year wedding anniversary. I've liked other women over the years but none of them liked me back. I feel real despair and emotionally drained at trying to move on and find someone who I like and who likes me. For the past 10 years I've felt worthless.

Did you think about getting help/support as Mental Health is a serious thing that really affects your wellbeing, people have ups and downs but I'm sorry you've had downs for so long, it might allow you to see the world differently and connect with others more, leading you to yours true love. Perhaps you could go on dating apps/ask friends to introduce you to their other females that are around your age and aren't in a relationship? You could change the course of your life and become the happy person you know you can be.
You could also ask people you like out to see if anyone does want to go out with you (if they're trustworthy of course) and see if you can build on from that.

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