30 year old lying about his age to other staff
There's a lot more to this than just the fact he's lying about his age. He has asked out almost every woman and girl at my workplace. He is taking girls personal numbers from the work groupchat to ask them out on dates etc even if they haven't had a shift together. He is lying about his age to everyone. He's even telling minors (16/17 year olds) that he is 20 before asking them out etc. He's made so many people uncomfortable at my workplace to the point they don't even want to come in.
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Original post by Anonymous
There's a lot more to this than just the fact he's lying about his age. He has asked out almost every woman and girl at my workplace. He is taking girls personal numbers from the work groupchat to ask them out on dates etc even if they haven't had a shift together. He is lying about his age to everyone. He's even telling minors (16/17 year olds) that he is 20 before asking them out etc. He's made so many people uncomfortable at my workplace to the point they don't even want to come in.
A similar thing happened to my Brother (he's a Doctor (ansethestist) and is also responsible for a group of young nurses). For context, my brother is black and he took on another (male) nurse from an African country (I won't mention the actual name in case people get triggered). When he met him, the first question he asked my brother was "Are you married?" and then the next question was, "Is your wife white?" He then seemed to become creepily obsessed with all the younger white nurses, and managed to find his way into their work-chat group (even though the nurses were clearly uncomfortable around him). He (my brother) ended up removing him from the chat, and pulling him aside for a "friendly chat"... although I can't recall how he actually finally dealt with the matter (I can try and find out, if you're interested).
Off the top of my head, you've got three choices here:-
1) You can voice your concerns to your manager / supervisor... Unless there's a "no-dating" policy at your work, he's not really doing anything wrong (most guys will tell some white lies to try and get their end away). And while a 30 year old trying to date a 16/17 year old it somewhat "creepy", technically it's not illegal. But... if his behaviour is making some of your other colleagues uncomfortable, then your manager has a duty to address this as work productivity will inevitably be compromised. If he doesn't listen, then you escalate it by going above them... until you get to someone who'll listen.
2) If you can prove it, you can blow his cover about his age... so people know what his game is. Caveat here is that I don't know what sort of person he is. If it's something that can be traced back to you, then he could try and take his revenge in some way.
3) Do nothing. It sounds like he can't help himself, and girls like to gossip (e.g. during lunch / smoking / loo breaks etc), so word is bound to get around and they'll all know his game... once word gets around, there's a chance he's frozen out of everything and he'll sabotage himself.
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Go to someone that can do something about it. Better to loose one creepy dude than a team full of good workers
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