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His mother is weird?

My new boyfriend's mother is heavily invested in his life. He's 29 years old, is the eldest son out of 3 brothers. While I found it endearing first, it is now becoming a bit annoying.
My bf mentions his mother a lot, frequently bringing her up in his conversations. He tells her EVERYTHING. If he has a new phone, shirt, bag, she's aware of it. She knows about his friends. Even girlfriends. I have seen my boyfriend's ex girlfriend in his mother's friend list on Facebook. He dated another girl for a while prior and that girl was also followed by her on Instagram.

He wrote a research paper and in the acknowledgements, he credited her for proof reading and support.

His mom is the same. Her active engagement is evident through her online presence, as she follows social media pages related to my boyfriends various academic and professional endeavors. From following pages associated with his UK university to those linked with an NGO he previously worked for, to even commenting on one of the pages and signing off as "X's mom xoxo".

Recently, she has followed pages related to the one of the causes he's aligned with and student workers groups he's joined at his new UK university. She has followed 5 pages of those organisations, all if which he told her about.

She was an alumni of this university and the reason he joined this university is because she is an alumni. He even copies her dressing sense as she wears coats with fur trims and that's why he also wears coats with fur trims.

I find it incredibly odd as she doesn't have such a heavy investment in his siblings life. She practically has little to no engagement with them except following his 2nd siblings ex girlfriend, who was their childhood friend. It's just my bf whom she is so invested in.

The father seems to have no hold or place in their life as he is barely ever mentioned.

I don't know but I find this level of investment quite unsettling and I feel like this woman would compete for attention if he starts giving another woman more attention than her.

What do you think?
Sounds like a mummy's boy, 100%, no doubt. All i can say is RUN. Your in a relationship with two people the mum and the son. Soon it'll just be the mum.
Original post by Anonymous
Sounds like a mummy's boy, 100%, no doubt. All i can say is RUN. Your in a relationship with two people the mum and the son. Soon it'll just be the mum.

Does he have mommy issues? Why is she so invested in his life?
Original post by Anonymous
Sounds like a mummy's boy, 100%, no doubt. All i can say is RUN. Your in a relationship with two people the mum and the son. Soon it'll just be the mum.
She behaves like an obsessed girlfriend. Not a mother. She is consistently going obsessed social media and liking things that hes associated with. This is not what a mother does but what obsessed girlfriends do when they take fancy to a guy and start stalking
and following page/friends he associates with.

It's another thing to support him and his endeavours and its a completely different thing to jump on social media and start following, commenting etc on the things he's associates with.

It's only this son that she behaves like that with. His two brothers study in Sweden and are also involved in some causes yet she isn't following or actively involved in their lives as she's with him.
mommy issues for sure

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