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How to decide if uni is for you ?

Is it normal to be so indecisive about going to uni? I took a gap year because I genuinely can't decide , but now its getting close again and I still don't know what I want to do. Ive tried pros and cons lists but they don't get me anywhere. My biggest fear is regretting the choice I make. I'm considering open uni so that I can carry on normal life whilst studying but then I'm worried I will regret not going for the full experience. Any advice ?
Original post by kerry.woollands
Is it normal to be so indecisive about going to uni? I took a gap year because I genuinely can't decide , but now its getting close again and I still don't know what I want to do. Ive tried pros and cons lists but they don't get me anywhere. My biggest fear is regretting the choice I make. I'm considering open uni so that I can carry on normal life whilst studying but then I'm worried I will regret not going for the full experience. Any advice ?

Hello Kerry,

It's completely understandable to feel overwhelmed by the weight of this decision. Remember, taking a gap year to explore yourself was a wise choice. You've given yourself ample time to reflect and consider your options. As you approach the decision-making point again, it's natural to feel a sense of apprehension about making the "right" choice.

However, it's important to recognize that there's no such thing as a "perfect" decision. Many of us struggle with uncertainty about whether our choices are the right ones. What's crucial is that you have informed choices available to you and that you feel confident in your decision-making process.

Rather than fixating on finding the "perfect" choice, focus on understanding what each option entails and how it aligns with your interests and goals. Reflect on your gap year experiences and consider what activities or pursuits brought you the most joy and fulfilment. This can provide valuable insights into what type of experiences you would likely prefer (open Unis or regular ones).

Instead of making a traditional pros and cons list, think about where your true passions and interests lie. Recognize that every option will have its own set of pros and cons, and that's okay. What matters most is finding a path that resonates with you on a deeper level. Don't hesitate to lean on your support network during this time. Talk openly with friends and family members about your thoughts and concerns. Their perspectives and guidance can be invaluable as you navigate this decision-making process.

Additionally, take advantage of university open day events to gather more information and insights. Engage in conversations with staff and students to better understand each university experience.
Above all, remember that it's okay to feel uncertain and to take your time making this decision. Trust in yourself and your ability to make the best choice for your future. You are doing well already. Please feel free to reach out if you have any questions at all. I hope this helps!

Cheers,
Shri (MSc International Business Student).
(edited 1 month ago)
Thank you so much. You’ve helped me put things in a different perspective. I’ve definitely been too focused on making that ‘perfect choice’ because of the fear of regret. But I haven’t once regretted my gap year and not choosing uni the first time around, so now as you said I’m going to try realign with my interests and goals and hopefully make the right decision for me. I usually expect myself to make these decisions overnight but I’m going to try take the time to properly reflect on what I want.

Thanks again
Kerry 😊
Hello,

My name is Haya and I am a final year medical student.

I think it depends on what you want to really do career wise. Some career choices (like medicine) need a university degree, other careers don't really require one.

If you would like to have the best of both worlds (work and uni) have you ever considered a degree apprenticeship?

https://www.uclan.ac.uk/degree-apprenticeships

Do you know what you would like to work in in the future?

Best of luck,
Haya

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