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Much older men perving

does anyone else get this problem and hate it? it's one of the reasons that stopped me going to beach in my bikini on holiday much older men and when i say older men in there 50s 60s 70s staring at me am only 18 don t mind guys doing it around my age but when much older men do it its annoying

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Reply 1
its so true
we were suppose to go to beach last yr but my dad said no for that reason
Original post by Anonymous
does anyone else get this problem and hate it? it's one of the reasons that stopped me going to beach in my bikini on holiday much older men and when i say older men in there 50s 60s 70s staring at me am only 18 don t mind guys doing it around my age but when much older men do it its annoying
i get that feeling i was at the beach last week trying to get a tan and a lot of older women caped staring at me i got nervous because I'm only 18 male and it just makes me week to my stomach
Reply 3
Original post by zack19002006
i get that feeling i was at the beach last week trying to get a tan and a lot of older women caped staring at me i got nervous because I'm only 18 male and it just makes me week to my stomach

so true
Original post by JF ZAK
so true

i can't go anywhere with out older people staring at me
Original post by Anonymous
does anyone else get this problem and hate it? it's one of the reasons that stopped me going to beach in my bikini on holiday much older men and when i say older men in there 50s 60s 70s staring at me am only 18 don t mind guys doing it around my age but when much older men do it its annoying


Can never get this problem as a man, but as one I don't like this behaviour. All the more when they make a pervert comment.
Original post by Kallisto
Can never get this problem as a man, but as one I don't like this behaviour. All the more when they make a pervert comment.

bro i am a man and most of the time i will not be wearing a shirt and older women would talk under there breath about me
Reply 7
Original post by zack19002006
i can't go anywhere with out older people staring at me

i feel the pain man
Original post by Anonymous
Maybe if you dressed modestly it wouldnt happen.
Alhamdulidah
girls aren't just going to wear pants or long sleeve shirts on all day
Original post by zack19002006
girls aren't just going to wear pants or long sleeve shirts on all day
I sincerely hope they would wear pants you yank. That would be unhygienic if they didnt
Reply 10
Original post by Anonymous
I sincerely hope they would wear pants you yank. That would be unhygienic if they didnt

as a muslim
1: we dont actually go to beaches where people dont wear little clothes due to religious beliefs.
2: You bring a bad picture to islam and play into the stereotype
3 Everyone is entitled to their own actions and decisions
4 Keep your thoughts to yourself, and there is no need for the 'yanks' part.
i hope u understand where im coming from brother/sister.
Original post by JF ZAK
as a muslim
1: we dont actually go to beaches where people dont wear little clothes due to religious beliefs.
2: You bring a bad picture to islam and play into the stereotype
3 Everyone is entitled to their own actions and decisions
4 Keep your thoughts to yourself, and there is no need for the 'yanks' part.
i hope u understand where im coming from brother/sister.

My misguided brother, surely we must provide counsel for all people.

Its not the point that you may not frequent beaches or other wonders of the world that Allah most high has given us. Is everyone entitled to what they want even if it leads to perdition brother? Listen to yourself the west has corrupted you. Do not lose track of the honourable path
Original post by zack19002006
bro i am a man and most of the time i will not be wearing a shirt and older women would talk under there breath about me


Maybe it is better for myself tot not to dress too revealingly. If that is possible for a man in terms of a swimwears after all.
Original post by JF ZAK
as a muslim
1: we dont actually go to beaches where people dont wear little clothes due to religious beliefs.
2: You bring a bad picture to islam and play into the stereotype
3 Everyone is entitled to their own actions and decisions
4 Keep your thoughts to yourself, and there is no need for the 'yanks' part.
i hope u understand where im coming from brother/sister.

My girlfriend is Muslim and she likes going to pools and beaches. She doesn't wear a hijab but wears a long black exercise shirt & leggings and stays close by me. As you mentioned being in a bikini it looks like you're not Muslim.
It's stupid that you have to change what you're doing because of men (the patriarchy).
Wear a sheer cover-up while not in the water (you will get more tan faster in the water anyway) and if you're wearing a thong/under boob/etc consider wearing something less suggestive. You deserve to feel s3xy but unfortunately if men are staring/making comments try somewhere else
Original post by Anonymous
does anyone else get this problem and hate it? it's one of the reasons that stopped me going to beach in my bikini on holiday much older men and when i say older men in there 50s 60s 70s staring at me am only 18 don t mind guys doing it around my age but when much older men do it its annoying


Disgustingly, men perving on you decreases when you get out of adolescence. Myself and many other women have noticed we got more attention from men when we were in our teens/in our school uniform than we do as women. I take that as a sign they know a woman is much more likely to scold them for their behaviour compared to an adolescent.

Unfortunately, there's not a lot you can do other than ignore them, but always be aware of your surroundings and don't be afraid to go to a staff member to report someone who is being particularly rude or you feel is following you. Don't be afraid to call them out on their behaviour (when in public) if they cross a line with you.
Original post by Anonymous
Maybe if you dressed modestly it wouldnt happen.

Alhamdulidah


This is a ridiculous backward take. You realise women get raped no matter what they wear, and usually by men they know? Men will stare at/harass young girls in their modest school uniform if they're that way inclined. Maybe teach the men around you how to behave like decent human beings towards women, instead of blaming women for everything.
Reply 16
Original post by MinnieMin49
My girlfriend is Muslim and she likes going to pools and beaches. She doesn't wear a hijab but wears a long black exercise shirt & leggings and stays close by me. As you mentioned being in a bikini it looks like you're not Muslim.
It's stupid that you have to change what you're doing because of men (the patriarchy).
Wear a sheer cover-up while not in the water (you will get more tan faster in the water anyway) and if you're wearing a thong/under boob/etc consider wearing something less suggestive. You deserve to feel s3xy but unfortunately if men are staring/making comments try somewhere else

if u dont mind wht do u mean by wearing a sheer cover up
Reply 17
Original post by Anonymous
My misguided brother, surely we must provide counsel for all people.
Its not the point that you may not frequent beaches or other wonders of the world that Allah most high has given us. Is everyone entitled to what they want even if it leads to perdition brother? Listen to yourself the west has corrupted you. Do not lose track of the honourable path

1 the west hasnt corrupted me
2 u bring a bad view in islam
3 if u read the quran it says in surah al kafirun
i am gonna add the english translation as maybe other will understand why we muslims should not ask other or force other into islam and force them into our values.
In the name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

1.

Say : O ye that reject Faith!

2.

I worship not that which ye worship,

3.

Nor will ye worship that which I worship.

4.

And I will not worship that which ye have been wont to worship,

5.

Nor will ye worship that which I worship.

6.

To you be your Way, and to me mine.

basically leave everyone to wat they believe and all will be sorted on the day of judgement also
im ur sister not brother (commom misconception) this is my pen name.
ig u want to discuss this more
im more than happy for u to pm me.
Original post by JF ZAK
if u dont mind wht do u mean by wearing a sheer cover up

Yea ofc! Like

Original post by -Eirlys-
This is a ridiculous backward take. You realise women get raped no matter what they wear, and usually by men they know? Men will stare at/harass young girls in their modest school uniform if they're that way inclined. Maybe teach the men around you how to behave like decent human beings towards women, instead of blaming women for everything.

School uniforms by way of knee length school uniforms are not modest brother. Do not stick ur head in the deep western sand my brother.

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