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Is it just me who gets this feeling of hopelessness pretty often, and whenever you drive past people who don’t look very decent (money wise) gets that feeling where you just KNOW that you’ll end up like them? Like u kind of know where you end up in life, all while living in the present moment? And you feel like you’ll be left behind everyone in life, while your friends forget about you? Like whatever you do, you won’t end up anywhere? I am a student rn so studying also feels hopeless.
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Original post by Anonymous
Is it just me who gets this feeling of hopelessness pretty often, and whenever you drive past people who don’t look very decent (money wise) gets that feeling where you just KNOW that you’ll end up like them? Like u kind of know where you end up in life, all while living in the present moment? And you feel like you’ll be left behind everyone in life, while your friends forget about you? Like whatever you do, you won’t end up anywhere? I am a student rn so studying also feels hopeless.

Hey, I went through a period like this a while back. I feel like everyone has these periods of feeling hopeless and like they won't amount to anything. If it's been going on for a while it's so much better to talk to someone about it rather than keeping it bottled up. (Yes I know it's very general advice that you've probably heard a million times, but it's true)

What I found helped me is to find one purpose and stick to it. For me, that was language learning. I started taking my French very seriously. My teacher saw a noticeable difference in my writing and participation in the class, which encouraged me to keep going. I'm now coming to the end of my secondary education, and hoping for almost full marks in my GCSE exam this summer.

Choosing something that you're good at is absolutely key. Each and every one of us is better than every single other person in the world at something, you just have to find whatever that thing is for you. We're all unique and special :smile:

I think the best thing I did for myself was set small goals for myself. Nothing too crazy -it would be things like 'learn how to use this tense by next month' or 'write a paragraph on my aspirations in French'. Completing these small goals gave me a sense of momentum and achievement that I was able to use to get out of that rut.

If you make consistent progress in some area, it's so rewarding and should be enough to make you start feeling better :smile:

Good luck OP, I believe in you :biggrin:
Original post by Anonymous
Is it just me who gets this feeling of hopelessness pretty often, and whenever you drive past people who don’t look very decent (money wise) gets that feeling where you just KNOW that you’ll end up like them? Like u kind of know where you end up in life, all while living in the present moment? And you feel like you’ll be left behind everyone in life, while your friends forget about you? Like whatever you do, you won’t end up anywhere? I am a student rn so studying also feels hopeless.

You’re young! You have plenty of time to build up your life and achievements. Don’t dwell on the future and focus on the present - you have a long way to go! :smile:

Change is inevitable - it’s normal to feel upset about change. Additionally, we have to accept change as we can’t always stick to our comfort zone. Moreover, you’re not the only one in this situation as change occurs daily throughout everyone’s lives. Friends may or may not forget you, depending on how large of an effect you’ve had on them; there’s also the opportunity to make more friends!

I hope you’re having a wonderful day and I want to tell you that you’re not alone! :biggrin:

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