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Sharing a room is destroying my mental health

I'm 18 years old and doing A-Levels in a few weeks. I share a room with my 15 year old sibling (same gender) and it is absolutely destroying me. I have absolutely no privacy or space to my own and I'm not sure how much longer I can take it. I'm also autistic which means socialisation drains me to my core and I regularly need alone time to recharge and not worry about constantly being percieved. To make matters worse, my bed is by the door so they have to walk through my ”side” to go in and out and it sounds ridiculous but I can't stand it. Once I've left a day of sixth form, all I need is to lay in a dark room and usually cry just to let feelings out of my system (this sounds ridiculous but my mental state is shocking at the moment). But because of the room situation, I can't ever have alone time and there isn't a single other room in our house which is ever empty (our house is very small). I do have a small desk in this room however, I find it fully impossible to revise in this environnement. With my exams coming up, I just don't know how I'm going to cope. I've been going to the closest library to me when I can but it's over an hour away and isn't open weekends. I'm genuinely so stuck and even without these exams, just living like this is destroying me. My mental health is so poor and my parents don't listen to my complaints. Of course I'm aware that it's just our situation and we can't do anything to change it but they just disregard my feelings and tell me that I'm being selfish and loads of other people have to share a room so I should just get over it but I don't know a single other person in my situation. I'm living every day just longing until I get to uni and can finally, for the first time in my. Life get my own room but even then I really worry about how I'm going to be able to cope with coming back home during holidays etc.

Sorry for the massive rant, I'm just really struggling and needed to get all of that off of my chestn
Reply 1
That sounds really tough, I'm sorry you have to go through this, and that there isnt much that can change it. It can be nice to find a change to make but I understand sometimes its not really possible; my own room is a box room, so I'm not sharing but also sometimes I feel far too big for the house I live in. It feels constricting and like there is no where to move. Makes it tough to do what I want, especially art, cause I like to spread everything out and take up room, but my room is half filled with even a single bed. I hope university can be better suited for you. I think when it comes to holidays, you can at least know that you're going back to your own accommodation at the end of it.

Wishing you all the best for your exams, and please, rant all that you need. Like you say, you needed to get it off your chest, it can be helpful to rant about something.
Reply 2
Original post by kass03
That sounds really tough, I'm sorry you have to go through this, and that there isnt much that can change it. It can be nice to find a change to make but I understand sometimes its not really possible; my own room is a box room, so I'm not sharing but also sometimes I feel far too big for the house I live in. It feels constricting and like there is no where to move. Makes it tough to do what I want, especially art, cause I like to spread everything out and take up room, but my room is half filled with even a single bed. I hope university can be better suited for you. I think when it comes to holidays, you can at least know that you're going back to your own accommodation at the end of it.
Wishing you all the best for your exams, and please, rant all that you need. Like you say, you needed to get it off your chest, it can be helpful to rant about something.

Thank you so much for reading and for your insight. As you said, I'm aware I cannot change the situation but simply needed to get what I was feeling off of my chest.

Your Situation seems tough too, especially it being hard to do what you enjoy. I wish you the best also and we will both be in a better situation some day <3
Reply 3
Original post by Anonymous
Thank you so much for reading and for your insight. As you said, I'm aware I cannot change the situation but simply needed to get what I was feeling off of my chest.
Your Situation seems tough too, especially it being hard to do what you enjoy. I wish you the best also and we will both be in a better situation some day <3

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