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scared to be in a relationship

Hi everyone


i would like to discuss something and hopefully someone can understand, i’m 19 years old i have never been in a relationship in my life i have spoken to a few guys over the internet messaging but when they ask to meet ect i’m too insecure so i block them or if they want to call i get really scared and don’t speak to them ever again.

i do find males attractive and like the idea of a relationship but if someone tries to talk to me or get to know me i run away , i can like this person a lot bur as soon as they show infested i start having this weird sickly feeling and honestly i feel like this is never going to go away.
Original post by Anonymous
Hi everyone
i would like to discuss something and hopefully someone can understand, i’m 19 years old i have never been in a relationship in my life i have spoken to a few guys over the internet messaging but when they ask to meet ect i’m too insecure so i block them or if they want to call i get really scared and don’t speak to them ever again.
i do find males attractive and like the idea of a relationship but if someone tries to talk to me or get to know me i run away , i can like this person a lot bur as soon as they show infested i start having this weird sickly feeling and honestly i feel like this is never going to go away.

maybe you should date someone you can like, like me if you really wanted and if you wanted to knowme a bit more
Reply 2
Original post by Anonymous
Hi everyone
i would like to discuss something and hopefully someone can understand, i’m 19 years old i have never been in a relationship in my life i have spoken to a few guys over the internet messaging but when they ask to meet ect i’m too insecure so i block them or if they want to call i get really scared and don’t speak to them ever again.
i do find males attractive and like the idea of a relationship but if someone tries to talk to me or get to know me i run away , i can like this person a lot bur as soon as they show infested i start having this weird sickly feeling and honestly i feel like this is never going to go away.

I completely get this! You’re not the only one with this issue! I hope it gets better for you.
Original post by Anonymous
Hi everyone
i would like to discuss something and hopefully someone can understand, i’m 19 years old i have never been in a relationship in my life i have spoken to a few guys over the internet messaging but when they ask to meet ect i’m too insecure so i block them or if they want to call i get really scared and don’t speak to them ever again.
i do find males attractive and like the idea of a relationship but if someone tries to talk to me or get to know me i run away , i can like this person a lot bur as soon as they show infested i start having this weird sickly feeling and honestly i feel like this is never going to go away.

well you could try dating a girl see if that makes you better you don't have to date a guy
Original post by Anonymous
Hi everyone
i would like to discuss something and hopefully someone can understand, i’m 19 years old i have never been in a relationship in my life i have spoken to a few guys over the internet messaging but when they ask to meet ect i’m too insecure so i block them or if they want to call i get really scared and don’t speak to them ever again.
i do find males attractive and like the idea of a relationship but if someone tries to talk to me or get to know me i run away , i can like this person a lot bur as soon as they show infested i start having this weird sickly feeling and honestly i feel like this is never going to go away.

Perhaps slowly be friends and as you get to know each other better then you can decide whether or not you think they’re better as a friend or more. Take it slow! You still have lots of time to think your life and relationships through.
I hope your situation gets better and hope you’re having a nice day. :smile:
Reply 5
Original post by jelllyfiiish
Perhaps slowly be friends and as you get to know each other better then you can decide whether or not you think they’re better as a friend or more. Take it slow! You still have lots of time to think your life and relationships through.
I hope your situation gets better and hope you’re having a nice day. :smile:

thank you so much! you too :smile:
I'm 20 (male) and in the exact same position. I was in an LDR for 18 months, but that unfortunately fell victim to the fact that it was an LDR.
Dating has always felt extremely intimidating, I never thought it would be possible for me. I'm introverted, slightly socially awkward/anxious and on the autistic spectrum. But, my ex was someone who I clicked with right away. We became great friends and 6 months later we took our relationship further.
What am I trying to say? You have to find the right person. Take it slow, become friends and see if anything more develops. Just like Jellyfiiish said. No matter how impossible it seems, it is possible. You just need to find someone who will respect you and make you feel comfortable.

The fact that I found this once, makes me more confident that I'll find it again, and I know you will too. I wish you all the best and good luck.
Is the response purely physical, as in nauseated feeling and dizziness. Or is do you get any emotional/mental distress along side it. Any fleeting thoughts or anything?
Reply 8
Original post by Billycatnorbert
Is the response purely physical, as in nauseated feeling and dizziness. Or is do you get any emotional/mental distress along side it. Any fleeting thoughts or anything?

both
Reply 9
Original post by Anonymous
I'm 20 (male) and in the exact same position. I was in an LDR for 18 months, but that unfortunately fell victim to the fact that it was an LDR.
Dating has always felt extremely intimidating, I never thought it would be possible for me. I'm introverted, slightly socially awkward/anxious and on the autistic spectrum. But, my ex was someone who I clicked with right away. We became great friends and 6 months later we took our relationship further.
What am I trying to say? You have to find the right person. Take it slow, become friends and see if anything more develops. Just like Jellyfiiish said. No matter how impossible it seems, it is possible. You just need to find someone who will respect you and make you feel comfortable.
The fact that I found this once, makes me more confident that I'll find it again, and I know you will too. I wish you all the best and good luck.

thank you so much

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