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Cricket girlfriend?

Cricket season has started!!! My boyfriend of 1yr is playing every Saturday and Sunday for the summer. When he has a game on, it takes up literally his whole day from morning to evening, he is zoned in so I get little contact, only a couple of texts when he has a break. I invited him for the first time to a family holiday but he has cricket. He is missing the week before of cricket, as he's going on holiday to watch car racing with friends, and he doesn't want to miss two weekends in a row.
I kind of feel upset that he is missing the first potential family holiday together...
I'm sure we will plan something for one weekend, and he will not play, but one or two days together over the whole of summer is just a scary thought to me haha
We both work full time, so only get evenings together.

I love that he has something he is passionate about and it makes him really happy, but I'm just a bit worried about not having any day time together for months.

What are other peoples thoughts on this?
Original post by Anonymous
Cricket season has started!!! My boyfriend of 1yr is playing every Saturday and Sunday for the summer. When he has a game on, it takes up literally his whole day from morning to evening, he is zoned in so I get little contact, only a couple of texts when he has a break. I invited him for the first time to a family holiday but he has cricket. He is missing the week before of cricket, as he's going on holiday to watch car racing with friends, and he doesn't want to miss two weekends in a row.
I kind of feel upset that he is missing the first potential family holiday together...
I'm sure we will plan something for one weekend, and he will not play, but one or two days together over the whole of summer is just a scary thought to me haha
We both work full time, so only get evenings together.
I love that he has something he is passionate about and it makes him really happy, but I'm just a bit worried about not having any day time together for months.
What are other peoples thoughts on this?

I’m a football type of guy
Original post by Anonymous
Cricket season has started!!! My boyfriend of 1yr is playing every Saturday and Sunday for the summer. When he has a game on, it takes up literally his whole day from morning to evening, he is zoned in so I get little contact, only a couple of texts when he has a break. I invited him for the first time to a family holiday but he has cricket. He is missing the week before of cricket, as he's going on holiday to watch car racing with friends, and he doesn't want to miss two weekends in a row.
I kind of feel upset that he is missing the first potential family holiday together...
I'm sure we will plan something for one weekend, and he will not play, but one or two days together over the whole of summer is just a scary thought to me haha
We both work full time, so only get evenings together.
I love that he has something he is passionate about and it makes him really happy, but I'm just a bit worried about not having any day time together for months.
What are other peoples thoughts on this?

What about midweek what does your boyfriend do midweek has he got net sessions
Reply 3
Original post by Mohammed_2000
What about midweek what does your boyfriend do midweek has he got net sessions

yep he trains every Wednesday, I play netball thursdays, and he goes home most friday's to prepare for the weekend.
So only have mon/tues evenings together. Sometimes exceptions where he might skip training but that's the general schedule
Reply 4
Original post by Anonymous
yep he trains every Wednesday, I play netball thursdays, and he goes home most friday's to prepare for the weekend.
So only have mon/tues evenings together. Sometimes exceptions where he might skip training but that's the general schedule

assess your situation. If you are willing to wait and be patient with ur bf, then in the future he will have more time on his hands. If you cant wait reassess the situation
Reply 5
I would struggle to deal with this. Tell him it’s just not cricket. You need some weekend relationship time in summer
Agreed with Zarek, speak to him and tell him you want to spend more time and feel like he’s prioritising cricket over you, I wouldn’t cope if I was only seeing a partner a couple evenings a week, and no thought for them to want to spend any extra time with me.
Sounds a bit of an irresponsible hobby if its going to take like 2-3 days away from every week from people who also have to work, it seems inevitable this would be putting pressure on peoples home lives for the sake of a game.

If this is what he's choosing to do with the time then he doesn't seem to feel you're a priority.
There's a simple work-around. Go on holiday with him during the winter. You're both in full time work, so you're not tied into any academic term times as to when you can go on holiday.

A bit of winter sunshine is great.

During summer week-ends, you focus on going on great little adventures without him.

As long as he treats you right when you're together, he has actually placed himself in the category of men that are most attractive. He's great company when you're with him, but you can never conquer his time. And therefore he's a positive challenge. Making him more attractive than negative challenges and more attractive than typical nice guys.

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