Is that normal?

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years with a 3 month break in between. We have been arguing a lot before that and it seems like the break has helped both of us, and taught us a lot. Anyways…today a really uncomfortable pain woke me up in the early morning, I got my period. My boyfriend woke up after he realised I’ve been gone, when I came back to bed, I’ve told him what’s happened and I asked him to make me a hot water bottle, he said yes, he’s been very nice about it. After that I took a nap, the pain hasn’t stopped at all. An hour later he’s spooning me and grabbing my cheeks. Now I don’t mind it at all, I do like it when he does that but I was just in so much pain I’ve told him to stop, in a nice way. Then he says to me he’s horny. I tell him I can’t help him because I don’t feel good. He repeats “but I’m horny can you do something” and then I say please just let me be. I felt nauseous. He’s told me that I’m lazy because I won’t do anything to “please him”. Then he got angry and told me that I’m demasculating him? I’ve said that I don’t mean to upset him but pushing it onto me is quite disrespectful. He told me I’m being a c**t and left the house without saying anything. We don’t live together. We are only students. I’m older than him. I love him I understand he wants to feel pleased as well but I don’t want to do it whilst I’m suffering. I don’t know what to think about this.

I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years with a 3 month break in between. We have been arguing a lot before that and it seems like the break has helped both of us, and taught us a lot. Anyways…today a really uncomfortable pain woke me up in the early morning, I got my period. My boyfriend woke up after he realised I’ve been gone, when I came back to bed, I’ve told him what’s happened and I asked him to make me a hot water bottle, he said yes, he’s been very nice about it. After that I took a nap, the pain hasn’t stopped at all. An hour later he’s spooning me and grabbing my cheeks. Now I don’t mind it at all, I do like it when he does that but I was just in so much pain I’ve told him to stop, in a nice way. Then he says to me he’s horny. I tell him I can’t help him because I don’t feel good. He repeats “but I’m horny can you do something” and then I say please just let me be. I felt nauseous. He’s told me that I’m lazy because I won’t do anything to “please him”. Then he got angry and told me that I’m demasculating him? I’ve said that I don’t mean to upset him but pushing it onto me is quite disrespectful. He told me I’m being a c**t and left the house without saying anything. We don’t live together. We are only students. I’m older than him. I love him I understand he wants to feel pleased as well but I don’t want to do it whilst I’m suffering. I don’t know what to think about this.

I’ve been in this situation before, and the sooner you leave the better. Whether consciously or not, he’s treating you as a sex toy. If he respected you as a person he would not be trying to guilt you into sex while you’re in pain or feeling unwell. No one deserves to be treated this way.
There may be times he treats you nice, my ex also treated me nice at times, but ultimately that’s not good enough. What’s most important is how someone treats you at their worse and when they’re upset with you. At his worst, he treats you like a sex toy and calls you derogatory names.
If you had a friend in this situation, would you want them to stay with the guy who treats her like this? If you had a daughter, would you want her to stay with a man who treats her like this? Or would you want them to find someone who would never even think to call them a “cunt”, or try to make them feel guilty for not being a human sex toy at his bec and call.
I promise you that you are worth so much more than this, and the greatest act of self love you can perform right now is not to let someone who disrespects you in this way stay in your life.