I dont think my friend respects my feelings

Well, basically here's some backstory.

I used to have a crush on my bff at the time, he was really nice and funny for the first few months. Then he started being really mean, like literally hitting me as a 'joke' after i told him to stop. He made mean comments about my weight (knowing i had an ED) and then decided to manipulate and gaslight me into thinking I was the bad guy. I wised up and RAN from the situation after a while of gaining the courage.

Fast-forward to a few months ago. My friend for years and my ex bff are now being buddy buddy. I obviously didn't like this as i had told my friend about his shenanigans and how he hurt me. I told friend and they said not to worry.

Fast-forward to now, and they are flirting with eachother 24/7. I feel like i'm 3rd wheeling my friend and my abuser. I feel so annoyed and disgusted and i just want to scream in their faces. They've hinted that they're gonna make it official and i feel just sick. Does my friend not respect me? Do they not remember the nights i spent on call crying with them because of him? Its just sad.

Reply 1

nineteen-yearold

maybe they moved on from that idk try to talk to them Abt it ig

Reply 2

depriveofsocial

Original post by Anonymous

Well, basically here's some backstory.
I used to have a crush on my bff at the time, he was really nice and funny for the first few months. Then he started being really mean, like literally hitting me as a 'joke' after i told him to stop. He made mean comments about my weight (knowing i had an ED) and then decided to manipulate and gaslight me into thinking I was the bad guy. I wised up and RAN from the situation after a while of gaining the courage.
Fast-forward to a few months ago. My friend for years and my ex bff are now being buddy buddy. I obviously didn't like this as i had told my friend about his shenanigans and how he hurt me. I told friend and they said not to worry.
Fast-forward to now, and they are flirting with eachother 24/7. I feel like i'm 3rd wheeling my friend and my abuser. I feel so annoyed and disgusted and i just want to scream in their faces. They've hinted that they're gonna make it official and i feel just sick. Does my friend not respect me? Do they not remember the nights i spent on call crying with them because of him? Its just sad.

Sit your friend down and be firm with them. Remind them of the pain and the abuse you have endured because of this man. Tell your friend how you don’t want to be associated with him.

Your friend should respect this decision and either distance themself from him or carry on to be like that him. Bearing in mind, she clearly likes him and therefore would be more swayed to stay with him and be more lenient in forgetting what he’s done.