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Should I be angry with my parents about this?

I feel that I have fallen behind in life and I tbh blame my parents. Both my parents came from a nice part of London suburbia and went to university. They were both "left wing rebels" though and instead of going into well paid areas like the families they grew up in, decided to become teachers and moved up north to get away from London and their families, which is where I grew up. The city I grew up in is mostly working class and rough and the school I went to was utterly terrible, it was next to an estate and full of nasty chavs and girls getting pregnant at 16 etc. I was bullied and looking back my friends were embarassing, only one or two went to uni, a few are learning trades and some are doing nothing and basically unemployed. My parents both went to far better schools than me and speak properly and tbh I really resent that. I have a northern accent that I can't seem to shake off which I feel has held me back. I got endless nasty comments about it at uni. Even worse, my parents never enrolled me in anything outside school so I never socialised properly. As a result, I barely adapted to university and hardly made any friends there, although I managed to graduate. I graduated two years ago and have found a graduate level job but I still find relating to middle class people hard and getting a girlfriend from that social class impossible because I lack confidence, sound chavvy and having gone to school with chavvy people my manners are comparably terrible. I don't want to go out with working class girls. sorry. I want to go out with girls from good universities who speak properly. I told my mum all this recently and she started shouting at me saying I was ungrateful. Really I am just massively angry with my parents about their decisions to be honest.

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Original post by Anonymous
I feel that I have fallen behind in life and I tbh blame my parents. Both my parents came from a nice part of London suburbia and went to university. They were both "left wing rebels" though and instead of going into well paid areas like the families they grew up in, decided to become teachers and moved up north to get away from London and their families, which is where I grew up. The city I grew up in is mostly working class and rough and the school I went to was utterly terrible, it was next to an estate and full of nasty chavs and girls getting pregnant at 16 etc. I was bullied and looking back my friends were embarassing, only one or two went to uni, a few are learning trades and some are doing nothing and basically unemployed. My parents both went to far better schools than me and speak properly and tbh I really resent that. I have a northern accent that I can't seem to shake off which I feel has held me back. I got endless nasty comments about it at uni. Even worse, my parents never enrolled me in anything outside school so I never socialised properly. As a result, I barely adapted to university and hardly made any friends there, although I managed to graduate. I graduated two years ago and have found a graduate level job but I still find relating to middle class people hard and getting a girlfriend from that social class impossible because I lack confidence, sound chavvy and having gone to school with chavvy people my manners are comparably terrible. I don't want to go out with working class girls. sorry. I want to go out with girls from good universities who speak properly. I told my mum all this recently and she started shouting at me saying I was ungrateful. Really I am just massively angry with my parents about their decisions to be honest.
right so you want to go out with girls who speak properly yet you still have a chavvy accent with terrible manners. That's so hypocritical you do realize this, yes? Apart from this, it doesn't seem like ur massively ungrateful so idk why ur mum is getting mad at this and not you being hypocritical.

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"I don't want to go out with working class girls. sorry. I want to go out with girls from good universities who speak properly."

There is nothing wrong with not going to university, it's not for everyone and in a lot of cases it's not necessary to be 'successful'. Also, how hypocritical of you? You don't want to date working class girls despite having a working class accent yourself? Your post is incredibly rude, elitist and narcissistic. Work on your fragile ego, 'cause this is gross.
Original post by Anonymous
I feel that I have fallen behind in life and I tbh blame my parents. Both my parents came from a nice part of London suburbia and went to university. They were both "left wing rebels" though and instead of going into well paid areas like the families they grew up in, decided to become teachers and moved up north to get away from London and their families, which is where I grew up. The city I grew up in is mostly working class and rough and the school I went to was utterly terrible, it was next to an estate and full of nasty chavs and girls getting pregnant at 16 etc. I was bullied and looking back my friends were embarassing, only one or two went to uni, a few are learning trades and some are doing nothing and basically unemployed. My parents both went to far better schools than me and speak properly and tbh I really resent that. I have a northern accent that I can't seem to shake off which I feel has held me back. I got endless nasty comments about it at uni. Even worse, my parents never enrolled me in anything outside school so I never socialised properly. As a result, I barely adapted to university and hardly made any friends there, although I managed to graduate. I graduated two years ago and have found a graduate level job but I still find relating to middle class people hard and getting a girlfriend from that social class impossible because I lack confidence, sound chavvy and having gone to school with chavvy people my manners are comparably terrible. I don't want to go out with working class girls. sorry. I want to go out with girls from good universities who speak properly. I told my mum all this recently and she started shouting at me saying I was ungrateful. Really I am just massively angry with my parents about their decisions to be honest.

Stop being chippy and blaming your parents. Be the 'right wing rebel' you want to be and take control of your own life. It's perfectly easy to change your accent, what you wear, your hobbies, meet different people etc if you are in a graduate job and want to change.

Reply 4

Original post by Anonymous
I feel that I have fallen behind in life and I tbh blame my parents. Both my parents came from a nice part of London suburbia and went to university. They were both "left wing rebels" though and instead of going into well paid areas like the families they grew up in, decided to become teachers and moved up north to get away from London and their families, which is where I grew up. The city I grew up in is mostly working class and rough and the school I went to was utterly terrible, it was next to an estate and full of nasty chavs and girls getting pregnant at 16 etc. I was bullied and looking back my friends were embarassing, only one or two went to uni, a few are learning trades and some are doing nothing and basically unemployed. My parents both went to far better schools than me and speak properly and tbh I really resent that. I have a northern accent that I can't seem to shake off which I feel has held me back. I got endless nasty comments about it at uni. Even worse, my parents never enrolled me in anything outside school so I never socialised properly. As a result, I barely adapted to university and hardly made any friends there, although I managed to graduate. I graduated two years ago and have found a graduate level job but I still find relating to middle class people hard and getting a girlfriend from that social class impossible because I lack confidence, sound chavvy and having gone to school with chavvy people my manners are comparably terrible. I don't want to go out with working class girls. sorry. I want to go out with girls from good universities who speak properly. I told my mum all this recently and she started shouting at me saying I was ungrateful. Really I am just massively angry with my parents about their decisions to be honest.

you sound stuck up, rude and looks like you have a massive ego. Ur comments are extremely hurtful to the majority of people in the uk who are working class. Clearly you never made friends. Work on ur attitutude and mindset this isnt the 60s. People like you disgust me.

Reply 5

Is this ragebait? I'm from the north aswell but u can change ur accent?? "I don't want to go out with working class girls. sorry. I want to go out with girls from good universities who speak properly." sounds really gross and just hypocritical. You want a girlfriend but u can't even make any friends. Maybe fix your way of thinking and maybe fix ur ego lol..

Reply 6

Original post by Anonymous
I feel that I have fallen behind in life and I tbh blame my parents. Both my parents came from a nice part of London suburbia and went to university. They were both "left wing rebels" though and instead of going into well paid areas like the families they grew up in, decided to become teachers and moved up north to get away from London and their families, which is where I grew up. The city I grew up in is mostly working class and rough and the school I went to was utterly terrible, it was next to an estate and full of nasty chavs and girls getting pregnant at 16 etc. I was bullied and looking back my friends were embarassing, only one or two went to uni, a few are learning trades and some are doing nothing and basically unemployed. My parents both went to far better schools than me and speak properly and tbh I really resent that. I have a northern accent that I can't seem to shake off which I feel has held me back. I got endless nasty comments about it at uni. Even worse, my parents never enrolled me in anything outside school so I never socialised properly. As a result, I barely adapted to university and hardly made any friends there, although I managed to graduate. I graduated two years ago and have found a graduate level job but I still find relating to middle class people hard and getting a girlfriend from that social class impossible because I lack confidence, sound chavvy and having gone to school with chavvy people my manners are comparably terrible. I don't want to go out with working class girls. sorry. I want to go out with girls from good universities who speak properly. I told my mum all this recently and she started shouting at me saying I was ungrateful. Really I am just massively angry with my parents about their decisions to be honest.

You are within your rights to be angry with your parents, as it was their responsibility on how you’ve been raised. Once you pass the age of 18, I’d suggest that you pause the blaming and build your own life so your children don't experience what you think was wrong with your upbringing. Good luck

Reply 7

Replies have been so based. Grow up and take responsibility. If you don't like something, change it.

Reply 8

this has to be fake wtf…but if not, you have massive issues

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