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I’m in love with two girls and not sure what to do

So I’ve been dating 2 girls for the past 2 years. I promise I’m not a bad guy and I genuinely just wanted a relationship. I didn’t mean for this to happen it just sorta happened and I’m now not sure what to do.

Short story is, in 2022 when I was looking for a relationship I went on two first dates with these two girls and they both went really great and we continued dating over the next weeks.. I expected one to just ‘fizzle’ out. But they both continued to go really well and I ended up falling in love with both of them and now I’ve been dating them both for 2 years. I now truly can’t stop thinking about them both and somehow want a three way relationship with them all. However I know that’s never going to work. They found out about each other (mainly because of me I was done with all the hiding and I wanted to come clean and told them) and they both went crazy and said that I have to now pick one of them or neither of them.

I’m not sure what to do. I really dont like comparing people or having to ‘pick’ between to people, I think it’s really disrepectful to have to ‘pick’ between two people but in reality this is what it has come down to.

People say “you should always go for the second girl because you wouldn’t have fallen in love with her if you loved the first girl”… but in this case I met both of them and started dating them at the exact same time.. there is no first or second. Also I truly am in love with them both and not sure what to do.

Girl A:
- I don’t have much in common with her but she has such a sweet personality, I truly love her and being around her makes me so happy. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been when I’m with her. No girl has made me feel so happy. It’s nothing specific she does but just being around her makes me feel this way.

Girl B:
- I have so much in common with her, we studied same subjects, we have the same interests and hobbies, we have similar personalities, we can talk for hours and never run out of things to say. We have engaging conversations, she’s really kind to me and looks after me and respects me. She treats me the best I’ve ever been treated. I could probably spend everyday with her and never get bored. I am also happy with her.

How can I pick? I’m really not sure what to do
Original post by Anonymous
So I’ve been dating 2 girls for the past 2 years. I promise I’m not a bad guy and I genuinely just wanted a relationship. I didn’t mean for this to happen it just sorta happened and I’m now not sure what to do.
Short story is, in 2022 when I was looking for a relationship I went on two first dates with these two girls and they both went really great and we continued dating over the next weeks.. I expected one to just ‘fizzle’ out. But they both continued to go really well and I ended up falling in love with both of them and now I’ve been dating them both for 2 years. I now truly can’t stop thinking about them both and somehow want a three way relationship with them all. However I know that’s never going to work. They found out about each other (mainly because of me I was done with all the hiding and I wanted to come clean and told them) and they both went crazy and said that I have to now pick one of them or neither of them.
I’m not sure what to do. I really dont like comparing people or having to ‘pick’ between to people, I think it’s really disrepectful to have to ‘pick’ between two people but in reality this is what it has come down to.
People say “you should always go for the second girl because you wouldn’t have fallen in love with her if you loved the first girl”… but in this case I met both of them and started dating them at the exact same time.. there is no first or second. Also I truly am in love with them both and not sure what to do.
Girl A:
- I don’t have much in common with her but she has such a sweet personality, I truly love her and being around her makes me so happy. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been when I’m with her. No girl has made me feel so happy. It’s nothing specific she does but just being around her makes me feel this way.
Girl B:
- I have so much in common with her, we studied same subjects, we have the same interests and hobbies, we have similar personalities, we can talk for hours and never run out of things to say. We have engaging conversations, she’s really kind to me and looks after me and respects me. She treats me the best I’ve ever been treated. I could probably spend everyday with her and never get bored. I am also happy with her.
How can I pick? I’m really not sure what to do

Lol playing two at once
Reply 2
Can this really be true, and if so how have you got away with it. Go for Girl B. If it doesn’t work out you can try telling Girl A you made a terrible mistake. Alternatively toss a coin
Reply 3
Original post by Mohammed_2000
Lol playing two at once

When Mohammed_2000 jumps on this thread knowing he is allowed two wives.
Original post by k59533
When Mohammed_2000 jumps on this thread knowing he is allowed two wives.

Na mate Mohammed_2000 jumps on the thread knowing he’s loyal and committed to the 1 woman only.
Original post by anonymous
So I’ve been dating 2 girls for the past 2 years. I promise I’m not a bad guy and I genuinely just wanted a relationship. I didn’t mean for this to happen it just sorta happened and I’m now not sure what to do.
Short story is, in 2022 when I was looking for a relationship I went on two first dates with these two girls and they both went really great and we continued dating over the next weeks.. I expected one to just ‘fizzle’ out. But they both continued to go really well and I ended up falling in love with both of them and now I’ve been dating them both for 2 years. I now truly can’t stop thinking about them both and somehow want a three way relationship with them all. However I know that’s never going to work. They found out about each other (mainly because of me I was done with all the hiding and I wanted to come clean and told them) and they both went crazy and said that I have to now pick one of them or neither of them.
I’m not sure what to do. I really dont like comparing people or having to ‘pick’ between to people, I think it’s really disrepectful to have to ‘pick’ between two people but in reality this is what it has come down to.
People say “you should always go for the second girl because you wouldn’t have fallen in love with her if you loved the first girl”… but in this case I met both of them and started dating them at the exact same time.. there is no first or second. Also I truly am in love with them both and not sure what to do.
Girl A:
- I don’t have much in common with her but she has such a sweet personality, I truly love her and being around her makes me so happy. I’m the happiest I’ve ever been when I’m with her. No girl has made me feel so happy. It’s nothing specific she does but just being around her makes me feel this way.
Girl B:
- I have so much in common with her, we studied same subjects, we have the same interests and hobbies, we have similar personalities, we can talk for hours and never run out of things to say. We have engaging conversations, she’s really kind to me and looks after me and respects me. She treats me the best I’ve ever been treated. I could probably spend everyday with her and never get bored. I am also happy with her.
How can I pick? I’m really not sure what to do

Never had a gf, but if you were to ask me, I'm saying A with my guts feeling, you two got nothing in common, but you 2 still have that bond, and you are the happiest with her despite not having similar hobbies and interests, I know you saying you don't know, but go with your gut feeling, have you ever looked at one of them and just thought about your future with her? if so that might be the one.

But I've never been in a relationship, so take my advice with a pinch of salt.🙂

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