Am I a bad person?

So with some of my friends I get really bored/tired of them quickly with not a really solid reason. For example they try too hard or make a hypocritical comment. This then causes me to not want to spend time or talk to them and once its happened the friendship doesn't really go back. I guess you could call it the ick for friends. This doesn't happen with all people though but it has happened with a couple close friends recently and would like to know if other people experience this or how to fix this?

Reply 1

JF ZAK

21

u just relize those people are just not ur type so move on and find others
thats alwayz happened to me so i get wht u mean

Reply 2

Chloe_8206

11

I can relate - I think it's OK to hop around friendship groups is those people aren't right for you anymore!

Reply 3

violet_07

8

Original post by Anonymous

So with some of my friends I get really bored/tired of them quickly with not a really solid reason. For example they try too hard or make a hypocritical comment. This then causes me to not want to spend time or talk to them and once its happened the friendship doesn't really go back. I guess you could call it the ick for friends. This doesn't happen with all people though but it has happened with a couple close friends recently and would like to know if other people experience this or how to fix this?

Ive been through this before, everyone naturally out grows their friends and you have just matured and out grown them, it is completely normal. If you dont want spend time with them or talk to them i suggest dropping them. Right people will come around, i dropped all of my friends for this reason (they also were fake). You cant really fix this problem as it is normal and nothing to worry about!! If you dont want to completely drop your friends (bc u wont have any after) then maybe just dont spend time with them after school, but even then you will have enough of them one day and just leave bc i did the same thing! At the end of the day think how you feel

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Anonymous #2

You are the type of person to use somebody until they benefit you.

Once your target or goal has been achieved you will leave them behind.

Reply 5

jessepinkman123

5

So instead of looking that up, you ask a forum? is it attention you seek? Perhaps you have BPD and are splitting? or it could be a hundred other things. Perhaps you should call the doctors.

Reply 6

Anonymous #3

God guys I think this person isn't trying to be malicious, they were just saying that they grow apart from people easily.

Just because you don't feel the same doesn't mean that you can shame other people for having different attachment styles. You should look up avoidant attachment and that might give you some context.

There's no need to be confrontational.

Reply 7

Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

You are the type of person to use somebody until they benefit you.
Once your target or goal has been achieved you will leave them behind.

I'm sorry but this is rude. You do not know this person so you can't make these kind of assumptions based on a small paragraph.

I understand that you might have been hurt by a similar experience, but you shouldn't project your insecurities onto situations when you don't know the full story.

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Anonymous #4

Original post by Anonymous

So with some of my friends I get really bored/tired of them quickly with not a really solid reason. For example they try too hard or make a hypocritical comment. This then causes me to not want to spend time or talk to them and once its happened the friendship doesn't really go back. I guess you could call it the ick for friends. This doesn't happen with all people though but it has happened with a couple close friends recently and would like to know if other people experience this or how to fix this?

It may be that you are growing up, changing etc. I read somewhere recently that Female brains do not fully mature until around age 25 ,for example, and then they can totally change their outlook on everything.Just an example of what CAN happen.

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