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Am I asexual?

So basically I'm equally attracted to men, women and everything in between but now I'm starting to wonder if I'm simply just not attracted to anyone. Like I've never wanted to 'rip someone's clothes off' or particularly even kiss someone. However when I imagine it in my head I do want to. I've never been in a relationship so don't know whether this will change when I date someone. I definitely love people platonically as well but I'm unsure if I've ever loved someone romantically. Is this normal? I have had crushes before but none are very strong and I've never cared if they date someone else.
To pork or not to pork... that is the question!
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to love through the need to sheath the pork sword,
Or to avoid the smashing of uglies and to instead express thy passion platonically.

Indeed, it is a quandary. I would suggest experimentation! It may be like Pringles you know... once you pop and all that.
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Original post by Anonymous
So basically I'm equally attracted to men, women and everything in between but now I'm starting to wonder if I'm simply just not attracted to anyone. Like I've never wanted to 'rip someone's clothes off' or particularly even kiss someone. However when I imagine it in my head I do want to. I've never been in a relationship so don't know whether this will change when I date someone. I definitely love people platonically as well but I'm unsure if I've ever loved someone romantically. Is this normal? I have had crushes before but none are very strong and I've never cared if they date someone else.

What it means to be asexual is going to vary from person to person, and we (as strangers on the internet) are not going to be able to tell you whether you are asexual or not. However, if you feel that it's a label you identify with, then use it! Also sexuality (and gender, for that matter) don't have to be fixed they can change over time, or if you discover another label that better fits with how you feel then you don't have to stick with the same label. Don't feel like you have to get into a relationship or date anyone or do any of that to "confirm" whether you are or not asexual or aromantic etc. obviously if you want to then go for it but equally if you don't want to then don't :smile:

Asexuality is a sexual orientation where the person experiences little to no sexual attraction towards others. It's separate from romantic, platonic, aesthetic, etc. attraction, and there are a number of microlabels/identities under the ace umbrella. It's probably better for you to explore it yourself, so here are a few links to some useful websites:

AVEN: https://www.asexuality.org
forums: https://www.asexuality.org/en/

LGBTQIA+ Wiki: https://lgbtqia.fandom.com/wiki/Asexual
acespec: https://lgbtqia.fandom.com/wiki/Asexual_spectrum

The Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/understanding-asexuality/

also the subreddit r/asexuality: https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/

Hope this helps a little bit? Feel free to ask more questions if you have any :smile:

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