when ur sad, how do u lift urself up?

Genuine question. What makes you think, yh imma be fine. Is it a religious way of thinking? Is it that you live with hope of life turning out how you want it to? I’m dealing with a rubbish time of life so I just felt like asking how people make themselves be happier. Sometimes im like, i just need to tell one person all my issues n maybe i will feel better? Idk does anyone also think this n also idk maybe i just feel like theres no good people in the world anymore. Ugh sorry this is a boring ass post but im tranna get thru my emotions n i just wish i knew someone who felt the same as me. Seemingly anyone i talk to doesnt even understand that i legit need like someone to care and listen. Anyways yh! Lemme know. Im muslim too so like I just live in the remembrance that everyone whos loved is tested so its fine but also i always feel like alone in my problems n sometimes i just need a hand to hold during it. Someone fix my life for me legit HAHA

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Anonymous #2

I think you should tackle things step by step, for me I love to break things down to make the feeling of hopelessness go away or get smaller, I don't know what you're dealing with, so I hope this can help. Making a list of what things are bothering you, perhaps a mindmap, with all the things you can do to reduce it is something I do in my head and sometimes jot down to help me clear my thoughts. Normally I say, 'What is bothering me so much this week?' and list all of the things. Life is tough, but you mentioned that you're Muslim, and one of the verses that frequently come to mind for me are “So, verily, with the hardship, comes ease. Verily, with the hardship, comes ease.” from chapter 94, it is repeated twice, which, if you're religious, can be reassuring. Of course other than that, you just have to trust yourself as life is a journey. If you need someone to talk to, there are plenty of support groups online, and apps/free helplines where you can just text someone your thoughts. I wish you the best.

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blaztroid

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First off, there's nothing boring about your post, your feelings are valid and accepting that can be a big part of dealing with what's going on. I've been going through some rough times this year and I definitely feel what you're going through. I'm not religious but I do have other ways of dealing with things. It's so easy to get caught up in everything that's going on that you feel like you are your problems, like there's no separation. It's really important to find yourself, or believe that you're still in there somewhere. Count the little victories, don't be ashamed to be happy. Even if it's for a moment, a few minutes, a few hours maybe, don't feel guilty. You deserve happiness. You deserve comfort. You deserve to live your best life. I know some of it might sound silly but these little mantras really do help. It's hope really. A ridiculous, stupid hope that feels tiny compared to everything that's facing you but sometimes it's the only thing that keeps you going. Clutch onto it like a life jacket in a storm.

Talking to someone about it is really important. If you're bearing all this weight it can crush you. You need to offload, to hear someone else's input. I was very reluctant to talk to anybody but it does help. I know it might be scary but it does help. If you're not comfortable going to friends or family, counselling might be the route for you, or helplines. But I'd reccommend going to someone you know, I'm sure they'll be supportive.

I hope you manage to find your way through whatever's troubling you at the moment.

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Hasnattttt

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Your prophet muhammad saw was sad at times too. He buried all of his children in his lifetime except fatimah. He cried when he buried his son. Sadness is a part of life sister. Its how you deal with it that separates the successful people. When the prophet was sad he would rush to prayer and ask Allah to help him.

I will leave you with my favourite quote in the entire quran sister:
"I complain of my grief and sorrow only to Allah"- 12:86 (surah yusuf. Prophet yaqub said this when he was so sooo sad that his son yusuf had been taken away from him.)

May Allah give you a life full of happiness and give you the greatest happiness in the next life when you lock your eyes on your palaces in Jannah ameen.

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Original post by Anonymous

Genuine question. What makes you think, yh imma be fine. Is it a religious way of thinking? Is it that you live with hope of life turning out how you want it to? I’m dealing with a rubbish time of life so I just felt like asking how people make themselves be happier. Sometimes im like, i just need to tell one person all my issues n maybe i will feel better? Idk does anyone also think this n also idk maybe i just feel like theres no good people in the world anymore. Ugh sorry this is a boring ass post but im tranna get thru my emotions n i just wish i knew someone who felt the same as me. Seemingly anyone i talk to doesnt even understand that i legit need like someone to care and listen. Anyways yh! Lemme know. Im muslim too so like I just live in the remembrance that everyone whos loved is tested so its fine but also i always feel like alone in my problems n sometimes i just need a hand to hold during it. Someone fix my life for me legit HAHA

Usually I just find joy in some other thing to keep me distracted from negative emotions! Works for me as currently during the 3 month Exam period, I’ve gotten a boyfriend who keeps me positive and I’ve never thought that I would be so calm during Exams! :biggrin:

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I7V

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Original post by Anonymous

Genuine question. What makes you think, yh imma be fine. Is it a religious way of thinking? Is it that you live with hope of life turning out how you want it to? I’m dealing with a rubbish time of life so I just felt like asking how people make themselves be happier. Sometimes im like, i just need to tell one person all my issues n maybe i will feel better? Idk does anyone also think this n also idk maybe i just feel like theres no good people in the world anymore. Ugh sorry this is a boring ass post but im tranna get thru my emotions n i just wish i knew someone who felt the same as me. Seemingly anyone i talk to doesnt even understand that i legit need like someone to care and listen. Anyways yh! Lemme know. Im muslim too so like I just live in the remembrance that everyone whos loved is tested so its fine but also i always feel like alone in my problems n sometimes i just need a hand to hold during it. Someone fix my life for me legit HAHA

The reality of the matter is that people don't really like hearing others complain to them, and often times they can't even help you anyway. Compare this to Allāh: He loves for you to complain to Him, and He has all the ability to remove your afflictions. Knowing this, why is it that we choose to complain to the people instead of Allāh. We have an example in the Prophet Ya'qūb when he cried himself to blindness after three of his sons were separated from him, he still said after all this: "I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allāh." [Yusūf 12:86] Those who are faced with trials are rewarded but this must be paired with patience. Complaining to the people opposes patience, whereas complaining to Allāh alone is a part of patience.

I understand your concern that you feel alone. The solution is to know that everyone faces hardships in their lives and that the righteous servants of Allāh faced the most hardships in their lives. We should learn the biographies of the Prophets, Sahābah and the righteous people to see how they handled trials and how they were patient. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “If one of you is struck by a calamity, let him remember my affliction, for it was among the greatest of calamities.” [Shu’ab al-Imān lil-Bayhaqī 10152 - Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani]

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