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Can’t masturbate manually…

I’ve (female) been masturbating for a couple years now and I have found I am unable to finish with my fingers or any other manual form. I’ve tried to do it externally (clit) with fingers, small smooth objects, pillows, etc and internally, but I can only get one finger up there which doesn’t do much… I have been able to finish using a vibrator and (embarrassingly) a electric toothbrush, but I can’t seem to get anywhere close, like at all, without mechanical assistance. None of my friends have had this problem before and I’m worried that I won’t be able to come when I eventually have sex, and I’m only into other women. Has anyone else had this problem or has advice for me?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

DO NOT FEEL ALONE. I think there’s this assumption that most girls are a natural at it when that’s just not the truth at all. Additionally you are still so young and your body is still maturing. I felt insecure and ashamed that I couldn’t “get there” as easily as any other girl I’d spoken too and it made me feel insecure because I thought how on earth would I ever do these things with another person?!? But now I’m in a long term relationship and he is so patient with me if I struggle but he took the time to get to know my body and even if I can’t sometimes do it alone he’s really helpful

Reply 2

black tea

This is not as uncommon as you think. There is no reason you can't use a vibrator during sex.

Reply 3

ageshallnot

I agree with @black tea on this. I'm a guy and 5 of my last 6 sexual relationships with girls have involved sex toys. The odd one out was a ONS with no chance of using them.