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Mate's ex
Right so this is a tricky one, i'd be greatful for any advice anyone could give me! 
So...My friend went out with this guy on and off for about a year at the begining of uni (this was in 2006). They were in a pretty seriously relationship even though it was pretty volitile and they never actually made the relationship 'official'.
Anyway, through him being with her i made an amazingly close friendship with him and even through out their nasty split we remained close and good friends. They've only just made up again.
Now recently, i've realised i fancy him. I'm pretty sure he fancies me as he's told mutual friends of ours (people i trust are telling the truth).
I dunno if i should tell him how i feel or not or even if it's acceptable for me to make a pass for him since he was so involved with my best mate.
What do you guys think?
x
So...My friend went out with this guy on and off for about a year at the begining of uni (this was in 2006). They were in a pretty seriously relationship even though it was pretty volitile and they never actually made the relationship 'official'.
Anyway, through him being with her i made an amazingly close friendship with him and even through out their nasty split we remained close and good friends. They've only just made up again.
Now recently, i've realised i fancy him. I'm pretty sure he fancies me as he's told mutual friends of ours (people i trust are telling the truth).
I dunno if i should tell him how i feel or not or even if it's acceptable for me to make a pass for him since he was so involved with my best mate.
What do you guys think?
x
Reply 1
Your best mate...hmm. Talk to her, if she doesn't mind...go for it.
Reply 2
That's a disrespect to your friend if you get with him IMO.
She might pretend she's cool with it, but she proberbly isn't
Just avoid taking it further
She might pretend she's cool with it, but she proberbly isn't
Just avoid taking it further
Reply 3
20
I think that before anything happens you need to talk to your friend.
They will probably appreciate you coming to them first and at least then you will know where they stand.
They will probably appreciate you coming to them first and at least then you will know where they stand.
Reply 4
Cheers for the advice!
Has anyone actually ever been out with one of their friend's exes?
How did it go? How did you approach it?
Has anyone actually ever been out with one of their friend's exes?
How did it go? How did you approach it?
Reply 5
17
Mate's ex = Mate sex
Just thought you'd like to know
Just thought you'd like to know
Reply 6
Mr Snips
Mate's ex = Mate sex
Just thought you'd like to know
Just thought you'd like to know
They never had sex.
Reply 7
If they never had sex I wouldn't consider it that much of a relationship
Go for it
Go for it
Reply 8
sounds like its been quite a while since they broke up and if it wasnt that serious.... i say go for it. Discuss it both of them though
Reply 9
SmokeZ
If they never had sex I wouldn't consider it that much of a relationship
Go for it
Go for it
Whaa??? That's not true! Relationship can be serious without having sex!
OP, didn't u say they got back together again?
Reply 10
mikniuke
Whaa??? That's not true! Relationship can be serious without having sex!
OP, didn't u say they got back together again?
OP, didn't u say they got back together again?
For how long?
Maybe when your 50.
If these 2 never made it official or even had sex I can't understand why they would consider it a relationship
Reply 11
SmokeZ
If these 2 never made it official or even had sex I can't understand why they would consider it a relationship
If these 2 never made it official or even had sex I can't understand why they would consider it a relationship
Oh yh, i forgot about that making-it-official part. Point taken ;p
Reply 12
mikniuke
Oh yh, i forgot about that making-it-official part. Point taken ;p
Hmm rhere was alot going on at an emotional level though it makes me unsure.
And no they didn't get back together i meant they're back to being civil again after having a pretty spiteful (on her side) breakup.
Reply 13
Ohhh, ok. Yh, i think u should talk to her first ;>
Reply 14
Kill your best friend. go for it. 
Reply 15
Dragonfly07
Kill your best friend. go for it.
I wouldn't go that far lol...i still value her more than him.
Reply 16
If you don't mind possibly upsetting your friend...
Reply 17
adilmorrison
If you don't mind possibly upsetting your friend...
That's the thing...i really don't want to.
The thing is i'm really unlucky with guys and the one time i find someone i really really like, and feels exactly the same way back, it just has to be him!
Reply 18
Well I went through this one and a half years ago. Best friend's boyfriend, liked him straight away, really got on well, was friends during and after their breakup and 1 months after they spilt we got together. I asked her first, she said it was fine but 2 months into us dating she decided it wasn't anymore and I decided it wasn't her choice anymore. She did some nasty stuff, and we now don't speak. I get still get stick from people classing me as the 'boyfriend stealing best friend' even though thats not what happened but I've never been more in love and happier.
I too felt the thing and took a risk.
All I would say is, yea it can work, but maybe keep it on the low around her, dont rub her face in it or force her to see you guys being coupley.
Good Luck!
I too felt the
Anonymous
the one time i find someone i really really like, and feels exactly the same way back, it just has to be him!
All I would say is, yea it can work, but maybe keep it on the low around her, dont rub her face in it or force her to see you guys being coupley.
Good Luck!
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