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Is it normal to feel jealous of those who have a wonderful social life?

My friend tells me not to be jealous of them given that everyone's life is "different"...I don't really get it.
It's completely normal to feel that way! Jealousy is a natural, human emotion that everybody feels in some way from time to time. What matters is how that jealousy then impacts your actions/how you deal with that jealousy. If these jealous feelings are making you act negatively towards people then it may be a problem and you might want to start thinking of ways to stop that negative behaviour or minimise your jealousy. Otherwise, I don't see it as too much of a problem. Your feelings are valid and normal - just remember not to let them get the better of you.
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Original post by OnlySmartOneHere
It's completely normal to feel that way! Jealousy is a natural, human emotion that everybody feels in some way from time to time. What matters is how that jealousy then impacts your actions/how you deal with that jealousy. If these jealous feelings are making you act negatively towards people then it may be a problem and you might want to start thinking of ways to stop that negative behaviour or minimise your jealousy. Otherwise, I don't see it as too much of a problem. Your feelings are valid and normal - just remember not to let them get the better of you.

I am very depressed
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Nah that's normal. I think the only way to get over it is to solve the issue though and become more social, even though it's hard u can do it
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Original post by 9pro9
Nah that's normal. I think the only way to get over it is to solve the issue though and become more social, even though it's hard u can do it

What if I am not able to become more social because I am introvert or in lack of the physical capacity to do so? Is it still my fault?
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Original post by Anonymous
What if I am not able to become more social because I am introvert or in lack of the physical capacity to do so? Is it still my fault?

If you desperately want to be more social that's got nothing to do with being an introvert, and social connection is a basic human need like food is. If you were hungry you're not just say nah I don't need food. Maybe you have social anxiety aswell
Original post by Anonymous
My friend tells me not to be jealous of them given that everyone's life is "different"...I don't really get it.

I would agree with your friend. Everyone is different and it takes a lot for individuals to be social. My best advice would be baby steps. Everyone starts from somewhere so stretch yourself out of your comfort zone little by little and you would be social in your own way!
Being jealous can lead to resentment and other negative emotions, so it’s not a great feeling to have. It’s good you’ve acknowledged it now; now you can take the steps necessary to be social but in your own way 😊 I don’t mean to come off as critical but I want to encourage you to try and not be jealous (as this can impact your friendships too) and also for you to develop your own social life in a way that’s comfortable for you.

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