First of all, I would like to apologise for hearing that you have been harassed in the past. Nobody deserves to experience that.
Now, I hate to be the one to break this to you but this is a problem that stems from beliefs that have been upheld by the patriarchy.
In fear of being seen as weak, many men won’t report the harassment they experience (so it is often not seen being punished), which is why you have come to the conclusion that there is a double standard for harassment committed by men or by women. Again, with you saying you never hear men complain about being ignored, chances are they’re in fear of how others may perceive them as ‘clingy’.
Personally, I’ve experienced my fair share of men complaining about being ignored, so news flash! It’s not just women, as you have led people to believe.
As a whole, this is just a generalisation of behaviours that you have made from the experiences of yourself and those around you. It’s fairly naive to think that men and women act a certain way from a handful of experiences. Despite having a different experience to you, I did not come to the conclusion that all men love to complain that women take too long to reply.
Making statements like this that generalise any form of harassment is damaging; it can further perpetuate the stereotypes that men must ‘man up’ in situations like this as they are unlikely to be taken seriously (not true), and that women complain about the smallest things and ‘take joy in harassing men’ (do I really need to specify this is also not true???). This would put anybody off seeking help for the harassment they have faced.
Anyways, my overall point is that women do not complain more than men, men are just less likely to report the harassment they face due to stereotypes. I honestly cannot even begin to think of where you go the idea that women enjoy harassing men.
Helpful articles:https://marquettewire.org/3988006/news/underreporting-among-males-likely-due-to-gender-based-stigma/https://serc.carleton.edu/advancegeo/resources/reporting.html#:~:text=Multiple%20factors%20contribute%20to%20lack,of%20consequences%20for%20speaking%20out.