Parents and Rejections Watch
She knew which unis I really wanted to go to and I think had I not got offers she'd have just said "ah well. c'est la vie" or something. She wouldn't be angry or butcher me or anything .
Asking you to work for getting a rejection is a bit over the top isn't it. The fact that you even applied to top unis (and did get offers from some of them) is brilliant. Your parents should be proud dammit!
Following later that week we got into an argument (probably TV) and she mentioned all the bad stuff about me (like she always does when shes mad) she said 'ure pathetic, can't get a job, can't even get in university, your a ****ing loser' yeah she swears when shes mad
the 'indian' reaction = u should have worked harder (true in one case), write them a letter explaining this and the other, persistence is the key (it shows enthusiasm etc...)
'british' reaction = dont worry son, its their loss and we will get through this. You just go to any university and come out with a first/good results and nobody will turn you down. OR tell me about how you feel (Dad...he's as i expect more sympathetic...prolly coz he is practically 'british' as he has been educated and brought up here and knows how it works while my mum is from india and educated their).
best of both worlds here, though my mum does give me a lot more stick and when angry...she will like another member here has stated call me useless and thick (though in the heat of the moment!). My nottingham rejection (for law llb) practically winded me (though expected still hurt badly as i wanted it more than even Oxford in a way) and mum was very supportive and listened to me.
I think that all one can do is prove everyone wrong by working VERY hard.
anyone else have parents that dont seem to care?
I don't want to go there now..
I haven't actually told my father yet, hehe (he lives abroad, in case you're confused!)
I think my mum and dad were more relieved when i recieved my offer from Birmingham as they could see i was getting really down after recieving 4 consecutive rejections!