likely to see ex again.

so. this loooong essay....

i dated this dude from oct-feb (age 16) , first month was ok then we started long distancing and he was quite controlling and manipulative (messaging my bestie behind my back, apparently telling her she's a bad friend when in reality she is the most supportive and sweet girl in the world)
he said a lot of pretty *****y things to me over text after the breakup in feburary (ie, i don't care about your studying, you should've messaged me more, don't i matter, so on and so on, and during the relation he was forcing me to apologise for not messaging him 'enough', saying i love him, making me apolise when i didn't end a conversation with 'i love you', such **** as that)
so i blocked him. so in response, he made a playlist on spotify (we dont use socials but this is the way he's decided to bait me apparently) with my name on it??? and the description was like 'ugh you said you don't wanna be a toxic ex. you can be on the groupchat, so long as you apologise'. like, no. i'm part of a friend gc and he mentioned me a lot on it (i dont post on the gc anymore, but i wanna stay a part to see how other friends are doing) and i lost a couple friends because they bought his **** (me being a toxic ex and he doesn't know why i blocked him!)
anyway my bestie messaged him to remove the playlist and blocked him.
and he did. and recently he made a playlist (i saw cause he's following a friend and i was looking at my friend's playlists) called 'songs *my name* would relate to' and it's just 1 song, and it's 'i kissed a girl'. i'm closeted bi, he's clearly trying to bait me. i told him that i was bi, like an idiot. only my best friend and sister know, and this makes me feel panicky and used because i told him i don't want to be outed, and i trusted him, and anybody could see this. (i don't use socials, so he's clearly just using spotify as a way to bait me 😭) i *will not* message him asking him to remove it. (parents could see my messages and i'm just not ready to come out)

however there is yet another issue at hand. we are likely to meet again in april (ish) 2025. i truly don't care, but
1) i do have to somehow make contact with him at some point before hand- **when should i message him and what do i say?**

and 2) am afraid that he's gonna use my bisexuality, and our breakup against me. i'm afraid he's going to say bad things about me to our friends. i do think that's out of my control, but i feel really panicky thinking about it, so if he does do that, how do i keep cool?

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Anonymous #2

he sounds like a ****ty person, ngl. imo you should not msg him bc you don't owe him anything, like at all. you sound like a nice person and there will always be someone out there who will treat you how you deserve to be treated <3

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Anonymous #1

Original post by Anonymous

ok firstly tysm <3
but we're gonna be stuck in a friend group for like a month together, i feel like i should say smth at least 😭 or it'll be HELLA AWKWARD