Flatmates makes me feel that I am ignored and unwelcomed
So we three are colleagues who decided to rent a flat near our workplace and it has only 1 bedroom and one small room. Only the bedroom has AC in it. When we moved it was decided all three will sleep in bedroom and when someone need privacy or need to study they can go to other room. The problem started to arise as the other two has many guy friends and they all the time invite them over and in most cases allow them to stay the night which makes me uncomfortable in my own flat as there is some strange male sleeping on the same bed where we three supposed to sleep. I ignored it because in winter time there was no need for AC and we didn't get any electricity bill so I was staying mostly in the smaller room. However the condition got worse as now it's summertime and sleeping without AC is not possible. So I told them you can invite your friends but don't let them stay overnight as I need to sleep in the bedroom.
They were okay. Then one flatmate sister came over because she got a job but instead of living for 5-10 days to arrange for her own accommodation she started to live with us without contributing a dime in groceries, wifi, and rent. And not that she also hogged my place to sleep. Now they use AC all the time but when the electricity bill will come it'll be getting divided into 1/3 portion instead of 1/4 and they also have problem if I am sleeping in the bedroom.
They invited their guy friend for a sleepover as he was dealing with some issue and I was ****ed because they told me afterwards they have invited him over and I told her let's see if it is possible I will sleep in the smaller room. Please note the word if possible but it was not as that day was extreme hot and I cannot sleep without the AC so I took my blanket and pillow and gone to sleep there and they were asking like are you sleeping here? I mean why the question it was my place, my bed and my flat. I am not saying anything you all are doing like your sister free loading for entire month and using all the groceries where I would be using them for 1 week only as I have to go to home for exams.
And from that day they are saying how am I showing attitude to them. I really tried to avoid going into that room but whenever I thought about the bills and rent I am paying and staying in the small room with no AC and all I feel unfair. They sleep and comfortably but I get anxious and irritating because how they are not considering that I am also paying rent and her sister is not a tenant that she can live their freely and I need to be mindful in my own flat.
Please suggest what should I do? And they didn't ask for my opinion that if her sister should stay for this much days without paying a dime. They never ask just tell me that he is coming or she is coming. I am frustrated, irritated and because of this it just keep me disturb as I am always overthinking about it which leads to not able to concentrate or study for my exams.
Please suggest that how I can take the stand without offending them as I am not earning some huge amount just much that can help me survive as it is just an apprenticeship.
They were okay. Then one flatmate sister came over because she got a job but instead of living for 5-10 days to arrange for her own accommodation she started to live with us without contributing a dime in groceries, wifi, and rent. And not that she also hogged my place to sleep. Now they use AC all the time but when the electricity bill will come it'll be getting divided into 1/3 portion instead of 1/4 and they also have problem if I am sleeping in the bedroom.
They invited their guy friend for a sleepover as he was dealing with some issue and I was ****ed because they told me afterwards they have invited him over and I told her let's see if it is possible I will sleep in the smaller room. Please note the word if possible but it was not as that day was extreme hot and I cannot sleep without the AC so I took my blanket and pillow and gone to sleep there and they were asking like are you sleeping here? I mean why the question it was my place, my bed and my flat. I am not saying anything you all are doing like your sister free loading for entire month and using all the groceries where I would be using them for 1 week only as I have to go to home for exams.
And from that day they are saying how am I showing attitude to them. I really tried to avoid going into that room but whenever I thought about the bills and rent I am paying and staying in the small room with no AC and all I feel unfair. They sleep and comfortably but I get anxious and irritating because how they are not considering that I am also paying rent and her sister is not a tenant that she can live their freely and I need to be mindful in my own flat.
Please suggest what should I do? And they didn't ask for my opinion that if her sister should stay for this much days without paying a dime. They never ask just tell me that he is coming or she is coming. I am frustrated, irritated and because of this it just keep me disturb as I am always overthinking about it which leads to not able to concentrate or study for my exams.
Please suggest that how I can take the stand without offending them as I am not earning some huge amount just much that can help me survive as it is just an apprenticeship.
Hello. I would suggest discussing the topics you have mentioned in your message with your roommates. It may be best to settle down and talk about what is happening, that is what I would do. If they get offended by such comments, then you are simply living with *****s. Another solution is to install an AC in the smaller room, I know you are on a tight budget but that may solve your difficulties.
You can also try and see why the sister is staying for such a long period of time and whether she is planning to move out anytime soon. Your roommates might need to open their eyes and realise that a room suitable for three, which is currently being occupied by four people, is not the right way to go about things (and perhaps the sister needs to leave).
You can also try and see why the sister is staying for such a long period of time and whether she is planning to move out anytime soon. Your roommates might need to open their eyes and realise that a room suitable for three, which is currently being occupied by four people, is not the right way to go about things (and perhaps the sister needs to leave).
Original post by Lee22222
Hello. I would suggest discussing the topics you have mentioned in your message with your roommates. It may be best to settle down and talk about what is happening, that is what I would do. If they get offended by such comments, then you are simply living with *****s. Another solution is to install an AC in the smaller room, I know you are on a tight budget but that may solve your difficulties.
You can also try and see why the sister is staying for such a long period of time and whether she is planning to move out anytime soon. Your roommates might need to open their eyes and realise that a room suitable for three, which is currently being occupied by four people, is not the right way to go about things (and perhaps the sister needs to leave).
You can also try and see why the sister is staying for such a long period of time and whether she is planning to move out anytime soon. Your roommates might need to open their eyes and realise that a room suitable for three, which is currently being occupied by four people, is not the right way to go about things (and perhaps the sister needs to leave).
Thank you for providing the solution I will try to talk to them and her sister wants to live with us. She wants we all four live together in a new flat with 2 BHK however it'll be possible in July month as we will be busy with our exams in June. So I will try to talk to them that if she is going to live next month also then let's divide it in 1/4.
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