Secert crush

Hey, I think that you shouldn't have to change yourself for someone to like you. If he likes you, he should like you for who you are. However, if it would make you feel better or more confident or happier to work on yourself and make yourself prettier then that's alright. I just wouldn't change myself with the aim of getting someone's attention because it might not work, and then you wouldn't feel any better. Also, remember it's just a crush, they come and go, so don't do anything too permanent for someone temporary.
Obviously this is just my own opinion, but do what you think would be right.

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saivyy

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Original post by Liqht

Hey, I think that you shouldn't have to change yourself for someone to like you. If he likes you, he should like you for who you are. However, if it would make you feel better or more confident or happier to work on yourself and make yourself prettier then that's alright. I just wouldn't change myself with the aim of getting someone's attention because it might not work, and then you wouldn't feel any better. Also, remember it's just a crush, they come and go, so don't do anything too permanent for someone temporary.
Obviously this is just my own opinion, but do what you think would be right.

thats such a beautiful answer😍

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Original post by saivyy

thats such a beautiful answer😍

ahh thank you : D

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OP

Thanks but idk what to do i feel so stuck I need so much help my friends don't know and I feel so stuck.

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Original post by Anonymous

Thanks but idk what to do i feel so stuck I need so much help my friends don't know and I feel so stuck.

I honestly know what you're going through, I would say to wait it out, but if you trust your friends or a friend, maybe talk to them about it, perhaps they have a crush too and you can keep each other's secret. Like I said crushes come and go, they can feel intense in the moment but remember that just because some guy might not like you now doesn't mean nobody will, you'll meet other guys who you'll have crushes on and it's about learning what way works best for you to deal with them. I used to have a crush for a couple weeks, just sort of look at them or you know, secretly admire them, then a couple weeks later I was off them, so waiting out the crush works for me. Maybe talking about it might help? Or writing feelings down?

Reply 6

OP

I get that but I'm worried that my friends will tell my secrets and I also think I'm not pretty enough for any boy to like me!

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That's alright, I don't tell my friends my crush either. I think, for me anyways, the next best is to write down how you're feeling, just get it all out (I have a word doc 28000+ words on my life lol) then later you can look back and laugh, because it'll just be something else that seemed so big in the moment, but it isn't really.
And about not being pretty, I don't know how old you are, but the pattern is that the older you get, the more you sort of grow into yourself, and when you have all those changes in your body, you tend to not look so great, but then when the dust settles, so does everything else. Also, if you really do feel like you're not pretty, like I said, to make yourself feel better and more confident, try something like skin care, or hair care, maybe try some makeup, but only do it if it's what you want to do.
I was never very pretty, still not, but I've learned to stop caring. Couple years ago I cut my hair really short, and my ponytails were awful, like it's embarrassing that I wore my hair to school like that, but now, nobody remembers it. It seems like a massive thing to me, but other people have other things to worry about. Just because you don't feel pretty now, doesn't mean you never will be. Part of feeling pretty is actually believing that you feel pretty, it's confidence that is attractive not just your looks. Obviously, I know some people are not very confident and pretty, but the point is that it's projecting the image of being pretty, and 'pretty' comes in a lot of different ways anyway. Someone who has blond hair wishes they were brunette, someone with green eyes wishes they had blue, people dye their hair red, people dye their hair white, no one ever feels satisfied with how they look, even the 'pretty' girls probably feel insecure in some way, it's normal.
So main thing is, just because you don't think you're pretty doesn't mean you never will be. You can try some self care and focusing on yourself. And a boy will like you eventually, there is definitely someone out there in those 8 billion humans who will fall for you, you just haven't met the right one yet! Keep an optimistic mindset and go out into the world, socialise, be confident, you will find someone one day, and you'll laugh at ever doubting it :smile:

(sorry this is so long, I love to waffle as you can probably tell XD)

(edited 11 months ago)

Reply 8

OP

Ha thanks just a question how old are u?

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Original post by Anonymous

Ha thanks just a question how old are u?

16

Reply 10

OP

oh i'm 11

Reply 11

OP

send me a pic of u

Reply 12

long-running-pro

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if u want

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Original post by Anonymous

oh i'm 11

exactly, you've got a whole lot of years ahead of you, don't worry about not being pretty, just enjoy life, especially lower years of high school, just enjoy them and don't let your looks stop you from doing anything :biggrin:

Reply 14

OP

ok
were do u go to hight school
also my name is emme!

Reply 15

OP

also u are very wise and smart

Reply 16

moosak_4

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yikes

dont send pictures of urself to randos

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Original post by Anonymous

also u are very wise and smart

thank you, I'd rather not share my name or school tho, it was nice to meet you, I got GCSEs to revise for, but I hope things go well for you!

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