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friends.. how?

When i was in my home country, i had a lot of friends.. a lot and i was such a memorable person (not to brag obviously) but i know i was bc i was happy everyday. i'p pretty sure i was an extrovert.
i moved to the UK three years ago, i have no friends except my sister which is well.. she is not exactly the type of friend i like, she's boring and weird, and not a good listener..
i'm now an introvert and it affects my life in the most drastic way, i have so much to share as a person, but i can't make friends so it just led to depression (i dont really know how to explain it)
BUT what do i do?

Reply 1

Original post by Anonymous
When i was in my home country, i had a lot of friends.. a lot and i was such a memorable person (not to brag obviously) but i know i was bc i was happy everyday. i'p pretty sure i was an extrovert.
i moved to the UK three years ago, i have no friends except my sister which is well.. she is not exactly the type of friend i like, she's boring and weird, and not a good listener..
i'm now an introvert and it affects my life in the most drastic way, i have so much to share as a person, but i can't make friends so it just led to depression (i dont really know how to explain it)
BUT what do i do?

maybe a little more context? are you in secondary school, sixth form, uni? whereabouts in the uk are you? and whats your technique that youve been using for making friends here?

Reply 2

Original post by Anonymous
When i was in my home country, i had a lot of friends.. a lot and i was such a memorable person (not to brag obviously) but i know i was bc i was happy everyday. i'p pretty sure i was an extrovert.
i moved to the UK three years ago, i have no friends except my sister which is well.. she is not exactly the type of friend i like, she's boring and weird, and not a good listener..
i'm now an introvert and it affects my life in the most drastic way, i have so much to share as a person, but i can't make friends so it just led to depression (i dont really know how to explain it)
BUT what do i do?

The most important thing to make friends is to find shared interests. You can do this by joining clubs for things you are passionate about or trying to find friend groups with similar interests to you

Reply 3

Original post by yat_ii
The most important thing to make friends is to find shared interests. You can do this by joining clubs for things you are passionate about or trying to find friend groups with similar interests to you

thank you sincerely but it's easier imagined than done. my course won't allow time to join clubs lmao. i joined a club at the beginning of the year but i've been so busy with placements and essays, its almost impossible

Reply 4

Original post by hiabsotd
maybe a little more context? are you in secondary school, sixth form, uni? whereabouts in the uk are you? and whats your technique that youve been using for making friends here?

currently in uni and because i'm studying nursing, it's hard to go out much because of placements. I talk to people i feel have the same interest like me but after that, they don't seem interest in creating a friendship. more like someone you see and say hi but not someone you can tell when you feel happy, frustrated or annoyed.

Reply 5

Original post by Anonymous
currently in uni and because i'm studying nursing, it's hard to go out much because of placements. I talk to people i feel have the same interest like me but after that, they don't seem interest in creating a friendship. more like someone you see and say hi but not someone you can tell when you feel happy, frustrated or annoyed.
that sounds really rough☹️however i will say the type of friendship you’re looking for (people to tell ur struggles to) takes time to curate and a level of trust has to be built first so you just have to keep trying. it must be quite lonely if you’ve come to the uk and you don’t have any friends, especially when you’ve self identified as someone who is usually quite extroverted it’s probably really disheartening. i mean if you’re on placement then there may be other individuals your age working with you im assuming? sometimes a simple “want to get food” or “want to go and get a drink after this” will do the trick! asking people out to things can make your relationship with someone go from being a friendly acquaintance to true friendship. and in my personal experience, it can be a bit scary to put yourself forward after meeting someone you like and asking for their number or asking them to hang out but most people enjoy the idea of them being good company and this is how some of my best friends have been made so don’t be scared! good luck ☺️

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