He gave up on the relationship when he went to uni
I’m so sad, I helped him get into uni too, he wouldn’t be there without me because at the time we met he had no clue what to do with his life after school and his family didn’t help him. The first 3 months were okay, we had tiffs over text quite often, looking back now I can’t even remeber what they were (but mainly because we missed eachother it kinda made us angry at eachother?) anyway when we got back for Christmas december was alright but he started withdrawing affection and I was so confused because he didn’t communicate. Fast forward to going back and February it was like we constantly had issues, I blame him a lot though as he was either reactive to very little or couldn’t communicate at all. When we got back for Easter he broke up with me. It makes me feel like the time we were together was just convienient for him (we started dating at the beginning of our gap years) then as soon as the gap year was over we slowly drifted. I really want him back but it seems like he finds me too complicated and can’t handle drama. Idk why I always would start something because I was scared what he was up to I suppose. Btw he did give me reasons to mistrust him earlier on. But long distance is over now, we have the entire summer back home and knowing he’ll be 10 mins away from me is killing me. Currently in no contact but I want him to realise what he’s done. I’m broken. If he really loved me surely he’d stay with me? He said before uni “you mean the world to me we’re only 3 hours apart It’s not gonna break us”. I feel used and abandoned
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Sadly relationships do burn out and what you describe is a pretty typical breakup. It starts with communication getting worse and bad treatment creeping in. It doesn’t mean that what went before was meaningless at the time, but after the split it is not relevant for the future. It is heartbreaking in the short term and the answer is turning to friends, distractions and in due course new love
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