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my bf is kinda controlling

i've always posted whatever on instagram but my bf told me that when i post it makes him upset bc he gets jealous. we've only been dating for just over a month.

Also i don't post myself half-naked at all. I stopped posting selfies bc of him and told me i have to tell him what im posting and when im posting.
he even got mad when I posted myself playing guitar because I didn't show him beforehand?!
So from this i've completely stopped using social media altogether for his benefit and my own benefit.

Also bare in mind i have under 100 followers and they're mostly all my close friends so I'm confused why he's so jealous and its affecting me because i feel like i'm losing a lot of my friends as i do have a lot of online ones.

I don't know whether if i should continue listening to him because it just feels weird to post now because he's gonna make a big deal out of it. Also is this common in relationships? bc ive never dated a guy like this and i dont even know why im listening lol

Reply 1

Zarek

Tell him to ease up, it’s no big deal and he doesn’t own you

Reply 2

Admit-One

Universities Forum Helper

I’d be inclined to knock it on the head as he sounds like a pillock at best.

Reply 3

Surnia

Life & Style Forum Helper

There's no 'kinda', he IS controlling. If he's like that over a few photos, what will he be like in future?

Get rid of him.

Reply 4

Dunnig Kruger

You will be more attractive to the men in your life if you're great company when you're with them and you go and on great adventures with them and all that BUT
you never let them conquer:

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Your time

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Your reactions

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Your humour

Your instagram activities when you're not with him is what you do with your time. You've already let him conquer this. That's a mistake. Go back to posting whatever you want on insta without consulting him. Make it totally non-negotiable. He can do or say whatever he wants, but he will never conquer your time again.

He has also conquered your reactions by him getting mad and you bowing down to his anger and caving in on this issue. When you should instead have maintained your good mood and not fallen into his frame that there was anything worth getting upset about.

When you think it about it, it is evil when one human being tries to control the harmless and lawful activities that another human being does in their spare time.
Influencing is OK - by for example him offering a series of great dates or holidays with you that you would rather do than go on insta. But when it's a win for him and a loss for you - that is nasty and a terrible way to treat someone you're supposed to love.

dump his ass lol

Original post by Dunnig Kruger

You will be more attractive to the men in your life if you're great company when you're with them and you go and on great adventures with them and all that BUT
you never let them conquer:

•

Your time

•

Your reactions

•

Your humour

Your instagram activities when you're not with him is what you do with your time. You've already let him conquer this. That's a mistake. Go back to posting whatever you want on insta without consulting him. Make it totally non-negotiable. He can do or say whatever he wants, but he will never conquer your time again.
He has also conquered your reactions by him getting mad and you bowing down to his anger and caving in on this issue. When you should instead have maintained your good mood and not fallen into his frame that there was anything worth getting upset about.
When you think it about it, it is evil when one human being tries to control the harmless and lawful activities that another human being does in their spare time.
Influencing is OK - by for example him offering a series of great dates or holidays with you that you would rather do than go on insta. But when it's a win for him and a loss for you - that is nasty and a terrible way to treat someone you're supposed to love.