My bf found out about my past ( update)

Welll even after our talk he continues to slut shaming me and body shaming me, even though before he said i had the perfect body. I tried telling him to stop calling me mean things and making mean comments. Before finding out he was the sweetest, now all this hate cause of past actions I regret every day.. I am not proud of the actions but I cant change the past.. wish i could go back in time but i cant.. Do i deserve all this punishment from him? why now and on exam period, I tried asking him to call and discuss some things over the phone but I got blocked instead for no reason.. Do i really deserve all this behavior from him?

Reply 1

StriderHort

21

Well, yes and no.

You don't deserve to be spoken to or treated like that, but if you're just going to let him keep doing it you have to take some responsibility. I would have dropped them as soon as they started talking to me like that and I wouldn't be trying to explain things or justify myself to them

Reply 2

aadeem

Original post by Anonymous

Welll even after our talk he continues to slut shaming me and body shaming me, even though before he said i had the perfect body. I tried telling him to stop calling me mean things and making mean comments. Before finding out he was the sweetest, now all this hate cause of past actions I regret every day.. I am not proud of the actions but I cant change the past.. wish i could go back in time but i cant.. Do i deserve all this punishment from him? why now and on exam period, I tried asking him to call and discuss some things over the phone but I got blocked instead for no reason.. Do i really deserve all this behavior from him?

We all have a past and we all do things we aren't proud of. everyone also reserves the right to walk away if they’re boundaries have been crossed. Especially if you lied in the beginning and he found out slowly and painfully. Speaking as a man who has been on the other side of that, I would’ve been so much more forgiving had I known in the beginning when I asked the first time and revealed my own past. When you build a foundation on lies and deception, it makes it nearly impossible for the man who cares about you to stop envisioning his love negatively. It feels like the whole world is laughing at you and mocking you when you adore a woman who you thought was innocent only to find out dirty details much later. However, if i know she has a regrettable past in the beginning, we can build a strong bond and trust together as we evolve.
Im not saying like the first date but once things start getting serious i think its important to lay it all out to establish a clear and fresh start to the relationship! Hope this helps.

(edited 10 months ago)

Reply 3

elareare

19

Original post by Anonymous

Welll even after our talk he continues to slut shaming me and body shaming me, even though before he said i had the perfect body. I tried telling him to stop calling me mean things and making mean comments. Before finding out he was the sweetest, now all this hate cause of past actions I regret every day.. I am not proud of the actions but I cant change the past.. wish i could go back in time but i cant.. Do i deserve all this punishment from him? why now and on exam period, I tried asking him to call and discuss some things over the phone but I got blocked instead for no reason.. Do i really deserve all this behavior from him?

Have a talk with him, telling him to stop and explaining why and how **** it makes you feel. If he doesn't, move on from him. He's being overly cruel. You hid things, sure, but you should talk it out like responsible adults. He should not 'punish' you like this, especially about you and your looks.

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

Welll even after our talk he continues to slut shaming me and body shaming me, even though before he said i had the perfect body. I tried telling him to stop calling me mean things and making mean comments. Before finding out he was the sweetest, now all this hate cause of past actions I regret every day.. I am not proud of the actions but I cant change the past.. wish i could go back in time but i cant.. Do i deserve all this punishment from him? why now and on exam period, I tried asking him to call and discuss some things over the phone but I got blocked instead for no reason.. Do i really deserve all this behavior from him?

leave him, if hes doing stuff like this now then u can't expect it to get better in the future, ur worth more than that

My bf found out about my past ( update)

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