Why don’t I feel happy anymore?
I am 23 years old and I’ve realised when I was younger I was such a happy bubbly person that always made jokes. Now I’m the opposite I barely talk and I feel unhappy most times. I feel like I’m ruining my relationship aswell I’m engaged and my fiancé keeps telling me that I’m not happy to see him anymore? Apparently I don’t smile? I don’t get it because I do feel happy and I love him a lot but he doesn’t see it. I know that I haven’t even the happiest in myself and I can’t put a finger why I haven’t been. I have started a new job but it’s only three days and that’s not even bad either. I just feel upset as we’re always arguing now he has exams and I’m here arguing with him. He’s bringing up things in the past and also telling me how mean I am now because I’m arguing and how I’ve changed. I feel so demotivated and I don’t feel confident anymore. I don’t know generally where my confidence has gone.
How has what you've been eating recently compare to what you ate when you were 15?
Too much junk food? Not as many unprocessed fruits and vegetables?
How about your drinking patterns? Especially your water consumption:
And your physical activity levels? What with PE / Games lessons no longer being a part of your mandatory weekly routine.
In parallel with auditing your internal biochemistry, audit your core inner fundamental life philosophy.
Have you been taking yourself and your life too seriously?
Remind yourself that you'll be dead in 150 years. And that your life doesn't matter at all in the context of the history of the universe. Which means that it makes no sense to get uptight about things. That you should take pleasure and satisfaction and joy from your life as much as you can. And you should take a zoomed-out look at any annoyances, stressors or setbacks that you have - to remind yourself that the bad things are no big deal in the grand scheme and that they are swamped by good to neutral things in your life.
Have you slipped into an "I'll be happy when..." mentality? I'll be happy when I get a job. I'll be happy when I go on holiday. I'll be happy when I get a promotion. I'll be happy when I get married. I'll be happy when I have children. I'll be happy when I start my own business. I'll be happy when I'm a millionaire. I'll be happy when I retire....
Your time to be happy is now. Today. Take time out to go visit an amazing place that's free or nearly free and is within 2 hours of where you live. And take joy and pleasure from visiting this place.
Take satisfaction from your new job. From the process of doing your job, day to day.
Have you been failing to ask "What else?" enough?
Ask "What else?" as a constant self audit thing. Mainly "What else could I do now?" If it's something better, do that.
Be aware, that as an empath, your natural inclination is to allow the moods and behaviours of others affect your moods and behaviours. Aim to take pride that you are different to most people. And that you can observe what other people feel and do and analyse it and copy the good whilst discarding the bad. With you focusing on making your good mood an inner rock in your life, so that you don't get sucked into the negative moods and reactions of others. All around you can be panicking or saying "Oh woe is me!" whilst you're feeling "Everything's fine. The darkest hour comes before the dawn. I'll get through this and then make amusing anecdotes about this crisis."
Too much junk food? Not as many unprocessed fruits and vegetables?
How about your drinking patterns? Especially your water consumption:
And your physical activity levels? What with PE / Games lessons no longer being a part of your mandatory weekly routine.
In parallel with auditing your internal biochemistry, audit your core inner fundamental life philosophy.
Have you been taking yourself and your life too seriously?
Remind yourself that you'll be dead in 150 years. And that your life doesn't matter at all in the context of the history of the universe. Which means that it makes no sense to get uptight about things. That you should take pleasure and satisfaction and joy from your life as much as you can. And you should take a zoomed-out look at any annoyances, stressors or setbacks that you have - to remind yourself that the bad things are no big deal in the grand scheme and that they are swamped by good to neutral things in your life.
Have you slipped into an "I'll be happy when..." mentality? I'll be happy when I get a job. I'll be happy when I go on holiday. I'll be happy when I get a promotion. I'll be happy when I get married. I'll be happy when I have children. I'll be happy when I start my own business. I'll be happy when I'm a millionaire. I'll be happy when I retire....
Your time to be happy is now. Today. Take time out to go visit an amazing place that's free or nearly free and is within 2 hours of where you live. And take joy and pleasure from visiting this place.
Take satisfaction from your new job. From the process of doing your job, day to day.
Have you been failing to ask "What else?" enough?
Ask "What else?" as a constant self audit thing. Mainly "What else could I do now?" If it's something better, do that.
Be aware, that as an empath, your natural inclination is to allow the moods and behaviours of others affect your moods and behaviours. Aim to take pride that you are different to most people. And that you can observe what other people feel and do and analyse it and copy the good whilst discarding the bad. With you focusing on making your good mood an inner rock in your life, so that you don't get sucked into the negative moods and reactions of others. All around you can be panicking or saying "Oh woe is me!" whilst you're feeling "Everything's fine. The darkest hour comes before the dawn. I'll get through this and then make amusing anecdotes about this crisis."
Original post by Anonymous
I am 23 years old and I’ve realised when I was younger I was such a happy bubbly person that always made jokes. Now I’m the opposite I barely talk and I feel unhappy most times. I feel like I’m ruining my relationship aswell I’m engaged and my fiancé keeps telling me that I’m not happy to see him anymore? Apparently I don’t smile? I don’t get it because I do feel happy and I love him a lot but he doesn’t see it. I know that I haven’t even the happiest in myself and I can’t put a finger why I haven’t been. I have started a new job but it’s only three days and that’s not even bad either. I just feel upset as we’re always arguing now he has exams and I’m here arguing with him. He’s bringing up things in the past and also telling me how mean I am now because I’m arguing and how I’ve changed. I feel so demotivated and I don’t feel confident anymore. I don’t know generally where my confidence has gone.
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