I want a girlfriend but am afraid of having one
I am close to 30. I have never dated. I want a girlfriend but am afraid of having one, because of all the dramas and/or responsibilities that would come with it. Is it normal? If not, how/what should I do to get things right?
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by AnonymousI am close to 30. I have never dated. I want a girlfriend but am afraid of having one, because of all the dramas and/or responsibilities that would come with it. Is it normal? If not, how/what should I do to get things right?
You want one? Well the responsibilities come with that. You might end up getting married or living together… if you’re planning on loving someone, you’re going to have to love both sides of their life- good and bad. If you feel like you’re scared about responsibility, maybe because you have a busy life you need to organise yourself? If so, work on yourself- that’s so much more important. You are living for yourself, your body is your temple!
You want one? Maybe go to a cafe, bump into a stranger and have a nice convo. Obviously don’t be scary. Or just start being out more with mates and you might find someone that way 🤷*♂️
To get things right? Just be kind, supportive and let them know your worries too. Literally that’s it. Maybe not straight away though lolz
sorry if any of this came off as mean at all, just trying to be helpful!
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by bobjeffandamMate I’ll be completely honest, no? maybe since you haven’t dated when younger, it’s just become more of a “scary seeming thing”.
You want one? Well the responsibilities come with that. You might end up getting married or living together… if you’re planning on loving someone, you’re going to have to love both sides of their life- good and bad. If you feel like you’re scared about responsibility, maybe because you have a busy life you need to organise yourself? If so, work on yourself- that’s so much more important. You are living for yourself, your body is your temple!
You want one? Maybe go to a cafe, bump into a stranger and have a nice convo. Obviously don’t be scary. Or just start being out more with mates and you might find someone that way 🤷*♂️
To get things right? Just be kind, supportive and let them know your worries too. Literally that’s it. Maybe not straight away though lolz
sorry if any of this came off as mean at all, just trying to be helpful!
You want one? Well the responsibilities come with that. You might end up getting married or living together… if you’re planning on loving someone, you’re going to have to love both sides of their life- good and bad. If you feel like you’re scared about responsibility, maybe because you have a busy life you need to organise yourself? If so, work on yourself- that’s so much more important. You are living for yourself, your body is your temple!
You want one? Maybe go to a cafe, bump into a stranger and have a nice convo. Obviously don’t be scary. Or just start being out more with mates and you might find someone that way 🤷*♂️
To get things right? Just be kind, supportive and let them know your worries too. Literally that’s it. Maybe not straight away though lolz
sorry if any of this came off as mean at all, just trying to be helpful!
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by bobjeffandamAnd good luck with finding your first girlfriend! It will be great dont worry - when you find the right person you care about, the drama will be the least of your worries
How I wish it would come true soon
Reply 4
Why are you so old on this app
Reply 5
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by AnonymousWhy are you so old on this app
My thoughts exactly, what's a 30 year old doing on here? Does uni go on for that long?
Reply 6
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by AnonymousI am close to 30. I have never dated. I want a girlfriend but am afraid of having one, because of all the dramas and/or responsibilities that would come with it. Is it normal? If not, how/what should I do to get things right?
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by ThedeadmemelordMy thoughts exactly, what's a 30 year old doing on here? Does uni go on for that long?
This app is like secondary school kids lol I mean a masters you probably finish late 20s I guess if he does a PHD or law school nonetheless not sure people on this app will have much life experience to advise proper
Reply 8
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by ThedeadmemelordMy thoughts exactly, what's a 30 year old doing on here? Does uni go on for that long?
Lots of people return to education later in life and plenty users over 30 here.
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by AnonymousWhy are you so old on this app
There is no age at which you can't be a student, or at which you can't be interested in giving advice, or at which you can't be interested in universities as a topic.
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by ThedeadmemelordMy thoughts exactly, what's a 30 year old doing on here? Does uni go on for that long?
That's like asking a fan of The Spice Girls why they're a fan if they're not a girl. University is for all. Conversation about learning is for all. If you're an intellectual anyway. I assume you're not .
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by PicniclThere is no age at which you can't be a student, or at which you can't be interested in giving advice, or at which you can't be interested in universities as a topic.
True. I don't understand his comment at all.
Reply 12
I guess that's why it's important to get to know someone really well before you get into a relationship with them. You have to know whether you're compatible with each other, there's no point getting with someone that you don't vibe with. This might take some time, but that's okay. Never lower your standards for someone, even if you're desperate cuz you might end up with the wrong person.
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