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Sex is overrated as a woman

It does absolutely nothing for me. I've read there are no nerve endings in the vagina and that would make senses. I feel that it's actually quite annoying. At the end of it it leaves you wondering if you have a std or something which is the double whammy and then psychologically you dont feel that good. There's 0 pleasure in it. On the other hand I enjoy kissing n cuddling. Why do women pretend they enjoy it because we don't want to hurt the guys feeling? Instead we say we have headaches or not in the mood not that its totally shite n a waste of time and regreful? Why do we put up with it cos we feel obliged? Women should start telling the truth rather than hiding the fact they didn't enjoy it at all like in the pornos. Thoughts?
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i kinda get what youre saying. but also it varies woman to woman, like i get pleasure from sex but its less intense than masturbation
How often do you orgasm when you make love to the man or men in your life?
How often do you have more than one orgasm during a love making session?
How often do you have strong orgasms?

A high proportion of men are poor to mediocre at making love with women.
Learning how to make love competently to a woman is about as challenging as learning to drive a manual car.
But far too many men never do it. Part of the reason being poor attitudes. Part of the reason being a lack of training. Men don't go to Making Love Instructors to learn how to be competent with women.

For women with competent lovers, there's no pretence at all about how much they enjoy sex. And how much they crave it when it they're not getting it. For them, sex is the joint most enjoyable thing in their lives. A beautiful act that combines physical, emotional, spiritual pleasure.

The "I've got a headache" is a stupid old fashioned cliche. A woman with a headache is about as likely to crave (competent) sex as she is to not want sex. Because the sex provides a distraction and the orgasm helps to relieve the tension of a headache. There can be a don't touch me headache and there can be a horny headache.
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Original post by Anonymous
It does absolutely nothing for me. I've read there are no nerve endings in the vagina and that would make senses. I feel that it's actually quite annoying. At the end of it it leaves you wondering if you have a std or something which is the double whammy and then psychologically you dont feel that good. There's 0 pleasure in it. On the other hand I enjoy kissing n cuddling. Why do women pretend they enjoy it because we don't want to hurt the guys feeling? Instead we say we have headaches or not in the mood not that its totally shite n a waste of time and regreful? Why do we put up with it cos we feel obliged? Women should start telling the truth rather than hiding the fact they didn't enjoy it at all like in the pornos. Thoughts?
The area behind the mons pubis is packed with nerve endings.That is inwards and upwards.Also the palm of hand and fingers.
Reply 4
Women are by and large as up for it as men so this analysis seems harsh as a blanket statement
Original post by Dunnig Kruger
How often do you orgasm when you make love to the man or men in your life?
How often do you have more than one orgasm during a love making session?
How often do you have strong orgasms?
A high proportion of men are poor to mediocre at making love with women.
Learning how to make love competently to a woman is about as challenging as learning to drive a manual car.
But far too many men never do it. Part of the reason being poor attitudes. Part of the reason being a lack of training. Men don't go to Making Love Instructors to learn how to be competent with women.
For women with competent lovers, there's no pretence at all about how much they enjoy sex. And how much they crave it when it they're not getting it. For them, sex is the joint most enjoyable thing in their lives. A beautiful act that combines physical, emotional, spiritual pleasure.
The "I've got a headache" is a stupid old fashioned cliche. A woman with a headache is about as likely to crave (competent) sex as she is to not want sex. Because the sex provides a distraction and the orgasm helps to relieve the tension of a headache. There can be a don't touch me headache and there can be a horny headache.

Whta is spritual abot intimate pleasures of this sort? I do not know about pleasures but perhaps it is understandable, feelings and attraction. But I am not joking. I would like to know what is spiritual there and the main thing is you and your partner must love each other, otherwise his ability to be a good seducer does not help?? If you think he is not nice
The spiritual aspect of sex between 2 competent and compatible people is difficult to put into words.
It's one of those things that when you've experienced it, you'll know what I mean.
And if you've never experienced it, I could talk for hours and it still might not resonate with you. In the same way that how you describe what it's like to swim in a warm, calm tropical sea to someone that's never swum?
Original post by Dunnig Kruger
The spiritual aspect of sex between 2 competent and compatible people is difficult to put into words.
It's one of those things that when you've experienced it, you'll know what I mean.
And if you've never experienced it, I could talk for hours and it still might not resonate with you. In the same way that how you describe what it's like to swim in a warm, calm tropical sea to someone that's never swum?

Thank you for the answer. It certainly sounds romantic. But the lovers should know each other. Also it is important to say that there is very RARELy (probably not rarely at all but certainly that does not happen to EVERY ONE!) a feeling that is based on mutual love and respect. It just doesn't happen to some. But people want a family in many cases and they have to marry someone who they barely like (especially that happens to women with not perfect looks and so on). That is harshness and there is hardly any romance in that sort of physical interaction. Not at all any provocation, just an idea. Some marriages are based on respect, and that can be as good as love. Unfortunately even that is not always universal. That is why the more someone lives the more scared she is of marrying at all. A bit strange but that is right.

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