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Doesn’t say good night

My bf and I are in a long distance relationship.
We have been dating for 2 1/2 years now. For 2 years and 5 months, we used to live together but since he didn’t find a job in the country I am from, he went back to his country, and we’ve been doing long distance for a month.

His mom and I don’t get along as the last time I visited his country, she didn’t think about even inviting me to his name-day celebration.

I am a student and I work part-time.

It’s been a month we’ve been on a long distance relationship.

On the nights he goes to see his friends, he doesn’t say good night to me. In fact, I don’t even know that he is with his friends until the next day…

This has happened 3 times already.

And tonight the 4th.

Dump or keep?

I already expressed to him that for me, it’s important that we keep a balanced long distance relationship and have our routines, so that we don’t forget about each other…
That sounds annoying! Try having an honest conversation with your boyfriend about your feelings. Give him a chance to explain his perspective. There might be reasons for his behaviour that you’re not aware of. If, after addressing your concerns, you still feel neglected or unimportant, it might be time to reconsider the relationship. 🥲
I wouldn't dump him just yet , don't you go out with your friends?. Do you both always tell each other everything ? . You have to talk with him properly about what standards you both expect from each other, that you both agree on , if its not standards and expectations you can both agree on and keep ~ then maybe its time for you to move on. :smile:
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How invested are you in this relationship if you want to end it because your boyfriend doesn't say good night every day? He's only been away 4 weeks. Is there more to it than just that, like he's socialising whilst you're busy working/studying, or because he had to move?

People in LDRs, myself included, or those who work shifts or go away on independent holidays, can cope without contact every single day. It's part of not being overly-dependent and trusting your partner. How long are you expecting to be apart?
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i think that you need to talk to him about this… does he know that you get upset when he doesn’t say good night? don’t dump him! he’s still new to this LDR, and so are you so people do make mistakes! just talk to him if you feel uncomfortable about anything. if you let him know only can he fix it 🙂

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