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What does it mean when a guy can't look you in the eye for very long? I have this male acquaintance of mine that I know and sometimes hang out with, but anytime we hang out together in a group, I notice that sometimes it seems like he's deliberately trying NOT to look at me!! Even if I'm talking in the group, he'll be looking elsewhere sometimes. I'm like: "Okay..what's up with that?"

Yet, this same guy is quite friendly with all the ladies, and he can seemingly talk with them and joke with them easily. He gives everyone else easy eye-contact, but with me, he's very cautious. I don't understand why. I never did anything to him. At least...I don't think so.

I used to think he was kind of cute and sort of had a crush on him, but since he acts so "weird" around me sometimes, I've decided to just forget about him.

What is up with this guy? Guys do you ever deliberately try to avoid eye-contact with some girls?? And if so what are the common reasons why a guy would try hard to avoid eye-contact with a girl? I have this male acquaintance of mine that I know and sometimes hang out with, but anytime we hang out together in a group, I notice that sometimes it seems like he's deliberately trying NOT to look at me!! Even if I'm talking in the group, he'll be looking elsewhere sometimes. I'm like: "Okay..what's up with that?"

Yet, this same guy is quite friendly with all the ladies, and he can seemingly talk with them and joke with them easily. He gives everyone else easy eye-contact, but with me, he's very cautious. I don't understand why. I never did anything to him. At least...I don't think so.

I used to think he was kind of cute and sort of had a crush on him, but since he acts so "weird" around me sometimes, I've decided to just forget about him.

What is up with this guy? Guys do you ever deliberately try to avoid eye-contact with some girls?? And if so what are the common reasons why a guy would try hard to avoid eye-contact with a girl?
Reply 1
Original post by Anonymous
What does it mean when a guy can't look you in the eye for very long? I have this male acquaintance of mine that I know and sometimes hang out with, but anytime we hang out together in a group, I notice that sometimes it seems like he's deliberately trying NOT to look at me!! Even if I'm talking in the group, he'll be looking elsewhere sometimes. I'm like: "Okay..what's up with that?"
Yet, this same guy is quite friendly with all the ladies, and he can seemingly talk with them and joke with them easily. He gives everyone else easy eye-contact, but with me, he's very cautious. I don't understand why. I never did anything to him. At least...I don't think so.
I used to think he was kind of cute and sort of had a crush on him, but since he acts so "weird" around me sometimes, I've decided to just forget about him.
What is up with this guy? Guys do you ever deliberately try to avoid eye-contact with some girls?? And if so what are the common reasons why a guy would try hard to avoid eye-contact with a girl? I have this male acquaintance of mine that I know and sometimes hang out with, but anytime we hang out together in a group, I notice that sometimes it seems like he's deliberately trying NOT to look at me!! Even if I'm talking in the group, he'll be looking elsewhere sometimes. I'm like: "Okay..what's up with that?"
Yet, this same guy is quite friendly with all the ladies, and he can seemingly talk with them and joke with them easily. He gives everyone else easy eye-contact, but with me, he's very cautious. I don't understand why. I never did anything to him. At least...I don't think so.
I used to think he was kind of cute and sort of had a crush on him, but since he acts so "weird" around me sometimes, I've decided to just forget about him.
What is up with this guy? Guys do you ever deliberately try to avoid eye-contact with some girls?? And if so what are the common reasons why a guy would try hard to avoid eye-contact with a girl?

I'm a single guy and when I try to avoid eye contact it is because I like that girl, but when I think it cannot lead to anything when she has a boyfriend already or if I feel she doesn't reciproque my feelings I try to avoid eye contact. If I feel attracted to a girl I think I cannot have feelings for anymore I also try to avoid eye contact because I don't want to stare to awkwardly long at her or I do that because I am trying to get rid of my feelings for that girl and am scared that the feelings for that girl returns when I make eye contact. I could also do that if I don't want other people or her to know I like her.
Reply 2
Original post by pokeguy
I'm a single guy and when I try to avoid eye contact it is because I like that girl, but when I think it cannot lead to anything when she has a boyfriend already or if I feel she doesn't reciproque my feelings I try to avoid eye contact. If I feel attracted to a girl I think I cannot have feelings for anymore I also try to avoid eye contact because I don't want to stare to awkwardly long at her or I do that because I am trying to get rid of my feelings for that girl and am scared that the feelings for that girl returns when I make eye contact. I could also do that if I don't want other people or her to know I like her.

If you don’t mind can I tell you how I met him so you have a better understanding of my situation?
Reply 3
Original post by Anonymous
If you don’t mind can I tell you how I met him so you have a better understanding of my situation?

Yeah sure
As a male myself, perhaps he doesn't feel as confident around you because he might be feeling inadequate around you like he doesn't deserve you. Tbh I am not a very reliable source- never been in any relationships myself (bc I go to an all boys schl) but that might be it ik some of my mates go on ab that sometimes.
I doubt he's doing anything weird but u never know. Don't be too heavy handed I'm sure everything is OK
Original post by pokeguy
I'm a single guy and when I try to avoid eye contact it is because I like that girl, but when I think it cannot lead to anything when she has a boyfriend already or if I feel she doesn't reciproque my feelings I try to avoid eye contact. If I feel attracted to a girl I think I cannot have feelings for anymore I also try to avoid eye contact because I don't want to stare to awkwardly long at her or I do that because I am trying to get rid of my feelings for that girl and am scared that the feelings for that girl returns when I make eye contact. I could also do that if I don't want other people or her to know I like her.

Yeah, as a guy if a girl is like a normal friend usually being friendly and eye contact is natural (like with guy friends ig) but if she's pretty or you just like them in general, I personally feel quite nervous to look them in the eye much. However, I also don't look at people I don't like in general, as in I won't even look in their direction while talking to them. So honestly it just depends how friendly you are to the guy idk
Reply 6
Original post by Anonymous
If you don’t mind can I tell you how I met him so you have a better understanding of my situation?

He never texts me first but whenever I text him. He replies really fast. He can talk and be comfortable with everyone except me. He can barely look me in the eyes. I always thought he hates me, why does he treat me so different from others. I even went further to ask him do I make you nervous, or why do you always look at me. He responded back really fast denying my accusation of him, and told me to forget about it. Because obviously he doesn’t text me first, I overthink a little bit whether he would get annoyed if I do it, he said not at all.
Reply 7
Original post by Anonymous
Yeah, as a guy if a girl is like a normal friend usually being friendly and eye contact is natural (like with guy friends ig) but if she's pretty or you just like them in general, I personally feel quite nervous to look them in the eye much. However, I also don't look at people I don't like in general, as in I won't even look in their direction while talking to them. So honestly it just depends how friendly you are to the guy idk

He never texts me first but whenever I text him. He replies really fast. He can talk and be comfortable with everyone except me. He can barely look me in the eyes. I always thought he hates me, why does he treat me so different from others. I even went further to ask him do I make you nervous, or why do you always look at me. He responded back really fast denying my accusation of him, and told me to forget about it. Because obviously he doesn’t text me first, I overthink a little bit whether he would get annoyed if I do it, he said not at all.
Reply 8
Original post by KingsleyArtha1
As a male myself, perhaps he doesn't feel as confident around you because he might be feeling inadequate around you like he doesn't deserve you. Tbh I am not a very reliable source- never been in any relationships myself (bc I go to an all boys schl) but that might be it ik some of my mates go on ab that sometimes.
I doubt he's doing anything weird but u never know. Don't be too heavy handed I'm sure everything is OK

He never texts me first but whenever I text him. He replies really fast. He can talk and be comfortable with everyone except me. He can barely look me in the eyes. I always thought he hates me, why does he treat me so different from others. I even went further to ask him do I make you nervous, or why do you always look at me. He responded back really fast denying my accusation of him, and told me to forget about it. Because obviously he doesn’t text me first, I overthink a little bit whether he would get annoyed if I do it, he said not at all.
Reply 9
Original post by Anonymous
He never texts me first but whenever I text him. He replies really fast. He can talk and be comfortable with everyone except me. He can barely look me in the eyes. I always thought he hates me, why does he treat me so different from others. I even went further to ask him do I make you nervous, or why do you always look at me. He responded back really fast denying my accusation of him, and told me to forget about it. Because obviously he doesn’t text me first, I overthink a little bit whether he would get annoyed if I do it, he said not at all.

Do you know if he has a girlfriend already? I confessed to a girl who was really secretive about her life and then found out she had a boyfriend already. She also said that she didn't feel the same for me. (Yet, she bumped into mrwith her arm against mine when I was waiting to ask a teacher something and there was well enough space). But sometime before that I also texted her about things I got irritated about like why she would always stare at me and then not come to talk to me. Well, I noticed that she would respond quickly to my awkward texts and I think she just didn't want her boyfriend or someone else see my textst accidentally because she was really into me a year before everything got awkward between me and her.

It could be that he has no feelings for you if he ignores you in real life or that he likes you.
Ok so I would find out if you are still into him if he has a girlfriend already.
If you are still into him please don't make things awkward like asking him about why he ignores you. He sure had his reasons, and otherwise let him go. You deserve a guy who gives you attention and is mature enough to be honest to you.
If you are still into him I would flirt a bit with him and laugh if he makes a joke and tease (with friendly pranks) him a bit.
You could also test the waters by giving him something what is in your hand and letting him grab it. If he touches your hand he likes you, if he does his best to not touch your hand he is either a genteleman or not interested in you. (I actually used this test I think 3 weeks ago amd a few days ago that same girl said she likes me)

If you don't want to pursue him I understand that too. I believe love has to come from two sides so find yourself a guy who gives you the attention you deserve.

You could confess to him if you still have lingering feelings for him and can't get rid of them. (worked for me). Since you told us that he is part of your friendgroup however I would not do that. But you have to make that choice for yourself.

I want to give you a little warning, if he sees you flirting with another guy and he suddenly gives you attention, please don't fall for the trap. (I had that experience with the girl who rejected me and she does the same now too, I just try my best to ignore her tp not let my feelings for her and the pain that comes with it return anymore)
(edited 3 weeks ago)

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