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nose job - muslim anti cosmetic surgery parents

does anyone have any advice on how I can propose getting a nose job to my mum? im 18 now so im an adult so technically I can just get one but I would really like my mums support. ive never mentioned wanting one to my mum although I have wanted one since I was about 12 years old, but always knew more realistically I couldn't do anything about it til I was older... it really affects my confidence badly I wanna cry every time I see a pic of myself or in the mirror, its really wide and huge especially from the side and I have a rlly bad dorsal hump and idk why because none of my family does it makes no sense, and also it doesn't fit my face at all it takes up a large space and just affects how I look so much
but now its summer before uni so perfect time... I have social anxiety and confidence problems and have had counselling for it etc, but I never mentioned this as a cause/reason bc I don't want to bring any more attention to it, but I def feel like this part of my appearance is a major contributor to my confidence problems. I barely speak to ppl idk because of it and I hate people seeing me from the side
I am obviously happy to pay for it even though its a huge amount it would be worth it for me, the problem is I just don't know how to bring it up and realistically I can't rlly just go and do it I feel like she wld disown me lol
but she's expressed being against cosmetic surgeries and stars who have had it done etc :/ and also she's v controlling and also overprotective? so it'll be harder, and if I take the ' I can get it anyway Im 18' approach it won't go well , and the rest of my family I think have the same opinions
idk we don't talk abt like 'insecurities' as such its js not a thing even thru my childhood so its harder to speak w her about
I rlly don't know how to approach it but I need to quickly because I want it this summer , its always on my mind so it lit does affect my life and daily life
I wld lit do anything for a nose job no joke it would make me 100x happier :frown:

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Reply 1
Original post by Anonymous
does anyone have any advice on how I can propose getting a nose job to my mum? im 18 now so im an adult so technically I can just get one but I would really like my mums support. ive never mentioned wanting one to my mum although I have wanted one since I was about 12 years old, but always knew more realistically I couldn't do anything about it til I was older... it really affects my confidence badly I wanna cry every time I see a pic of myself or in the mirror, its really wide and huge especially from the side and I have a rlly bad dorsal hump and idk why because none of my family does it makes no sense, and also it doesn't fit my face at all it takes up a large space and just affects how I look so much
but now its summer before uni so perfect time... I have social anxiety and confidence problems and have had counselling for it etc, but I never mentioned this as a cause/reason bc I don't want to bring any more attention to it, but I def feel like this part of my appearance is a major contributor to my confidence problems. I barely speak to ppl idk because of it and I hate people seeing me from the side
I am obviously happy to pay for it even though its a huge amount it would be worth it for me, the problem is I just don't know how to bring it up and realistically I can't rlly just go and do it I feel like she wld disown me lol
but she's expressed being against cosmetic surgeries and stars who have had it done etc :/ and also she's v controlling and also overprotective? so it'll be harder, and if I take the ' I can get it anyway Im 18' approach it won't go well , and the rest of my family I think have the same opinions
idk we don't talk abt like 'insecurities' as such its js not a thing even thru my childhood so its harder to speak w her about
I rlly don't know how to approach it but I need to quickly because I want it this summer , its always on my mind so it lit does affect my life and daily life
I wld lit do anything for a nose job no joke it would make me 100x happier :frown:

and our relationship has been a bit tricky recently as 5 years ago I was diagnosed w anorexia so my ed has a strain on it... so that makes it harder to talk about stuff
Reply 2
Original post by fakeaccount145
Im in the exact same situation as you im looking to get it over the summer as well not sure how to tell my strict muslim parents and i dont think ill have enough saved by then ill have to take some out my child trust fund or something i dont know but it stresses me as well

omg twin i’m acc using my trust fund too and then gonna have to top it up (if i manage to speak to my mum) nah literally bc my mum is so strict i’m ******** myself about asking her / talking to her abt it the fact i’m more scared abt that than paying for it is crazy 😭😭😭good luck 🙏🙏🙏hopefully by the end of the year we r sorted
Reply 3
Original post by fakeaccount145
Ive already got a doctor quote me so i only need a few thousand and i know my child trust fund has enough but i pray i get a job over summer so if i do manage to tell my parents they dont kill me for using half the trust fund or something 😭

omg lucky how u getting it so cheap😭mines starting from £8000 where i live
if I'm being honest, the nose job probably won't make you feel better. it sounds a bit like you have dysmorphia but do what makes you happy ig
Reply 5
Original post by fakeaccount145
im planning to go abroad bro 💀 no way am i doing it here UK surgeons Ive seen have no experience with ethnic noses and they are so pricey im doing mine for £4k

fairs idk if I could tho
Reply 6
Original post by fakeaccount145
icl the whole situation is j so long tho like ive wanted a nose job forever ive got a deviated septum but my nose is so big it doesnt even cause breathing problems and it just takes up my whole face and it j makes me paranoid like i only talk to people from a side on view cause from the front i look like a ****** but having to do a levels whilst researching all this is not helpful like i wish my parents could help would make it so much easier

feel the exact same its taking sm of my mind and time and stress for a levels too, want it esp before uni so I don't look like this there too lol
same it wld be sm of a relief even if they didnt help / just were accepting yk
I have Pakistani heritage, so having a big nose is natural for me. I hate my nose so much; it's my biggest insecurity. I'm only 16, so I'm too young to get surgery, and my Muslim parents would never let me. It's actually quite pretty from the front, but I don't like my side profile. I haven't seriously thought about getting surgery, but I've noticed that my nose is getting larger as I get older, which I don't like. so yeh
Original post by fakeaccount145
thats what im saying like i want my uni life to be a different experience and i wanna actually be outgoing and all that but dont reckon i can with my nose like this. do u think ull actually follow through w it in the summer

I have my gsce and im ways stressed that people are looking at my side profile
Reply 9
Original post by fakeaccount145
thats what im saying like i want my uni life to be a different experience and i wanna actually be outgoing and all that but dont reckon i can with my nose like this. do u think ull actually follow through w it in the summer

literally its affecting me sm it'd ruin it even small, things like driving lessons I can't bare I hate people seeing me from the side etc like even in sixth form classes I hate it
if I have my mums support I 100% will, wbu?
if not I rlly want to but idk if ill be able to in all honestly ... I just feel like now is the perf time, a few months for recovery till uni too if it were straight after a levels
Original post by Anonymous
literally its affecting me sm it'd ruin it even small, things like driving lessons I can't bare I hate people seeing me from the side etc like even in sixth form classes I hate it
if I have my mums support I 100% will, wbu?
if not I rlly want to but idk if ill be able to in all honestly ... I just feel like now is the perf time, a few months for recovery till uni too if it were straight after a levels

my crush lorry said that would be a 10/10 if it wasn't for my nose. 😅
Original post by fakeaccount145
bro when people walk into the exam hall when i do exams i cover my nose from one side until the paper starts 😭😭

omg same !
Original post by fakeaccount145
yeah i cant deal with driving lessons where people to the right of me see me makes me uncomfortable. i think im gonna try get a job in july work for a month and hopefully have almost 2k and then tell my parents or smth tbh i have no idea but i really want it i just dont know if my parents will support me (they wont)

you could also do one od those non surgical nose jobs there more subtle and mabyby your parents would except that more openly
Original post by fakeaccount145
bro when i hide my nose in snaps people actually think i look attractive its so ****ed 😭😭

its so annoying this like al y other features are alyally so pretty and so my figure it litre just my nose . tbh it just my side profile the front of my nose is actual quite pretty escpacily for my Pakistani standard. so when ever I talk to someone ialsways make sure that only see my face from the front NEVER THE SIDE
Original post by fakeaccount145
yeah i looked at a tip plasty but its literally the exact same price and my brown parents will hear any surgery and go mental so it dont really matter

It sucks. I'm 16 now, so I'm too young to do anything about it. My mom said I should wait until my face fully develops. She told me that at my age, she was also insecure about her nose, but after 25, she felt fine because her jawline and cheekbones became more prominent, which gave the illusion that her nose had gotten smaller. She explained that all my other facial features are still maturing and I should give it time. She also said that if, when I get older, I still don't like my nose, she would support me in getting non-surgical procedures, though my dad would NEVER agree. I'm just hoping that what happened to her happens to me because her nose is actually so pretty. It's big, but it suits her because all her other facial features are so strong. and to be honest I don't thing I would suit like a pixie are overly small nose I just want it to be a bit more smaller with a none surgical nos3 job can fix I think.
Original post by fakeaccount145
bro when people walk into the exam hall when i do exams i cover my nose from one side until the paper starts 😭😭

omg same stopp 😭😭😭
my aunt is also a plastic surgeon so plastic surge in our family is fround upon but not like a major deal
Original post by animazddhdnm
my aunt is also a plastic surgeon so plastic surge in our family is fround upon but not like a major deal
luckyyy
my aunt also said then in stead of nose job you cool get fillers just at the bottom of you nose to lift it slightly to give the illusion of a smaller nose or lip filers or fillers in the cheeks and jawline to balance out facial features. you can do that more subllte and overtime
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Original post by animazddhdnm
my aunt also said then in stead of nose job you cool get fillers just at the bottom of you nose to lift it slightly to give the illusion of a smaller nose or lip filers or fillers in the cheeks and jawline to balance out facial features. you can do that more subllte and overtime
i wish mine was less severe cause i’d be more inclined to do fillers but i need actual surgery cause of the size it’s not js the hump ygm
also unfortunately it’s crooked at the front so cld def do w surgery

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