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I am 21 turning 22 with a partner I’ve been with for over 6 years now, working and finished my studies. I found out I am pregnant 2 weeks ago and currently I am 7 weeks and a half pregnant. I really don’t know what to do because I always wanted children and sort of always like pictures of babies on my Instagram feed, however, finding out now was a shock. I initially thought okay let me go through with an abortion but idk if it was my hormones that kicked in but everytime I thought of it it made me cry historically. I had a scan the other day at MSI and when they asked me if I want to go ahead with the abortion I said I’m not sure and left. It is a tough decision because prior to finding out this news I had some bad anxiety and gloominess, some sleepless nights and ever since I found out about this pregnancy these things have been brushed off and things feel much clearer and brighter ( could it be the hormones or the fact I am in shock ) although I am really really mind blown. I don’t think I’m ready for this change at the moment because I am still young and don’t want to be robbed off my young years and still experience life but at the same time I’ve been stalling this abortion for a while and don’t know if I am brave enough to do it. I am really terrified of it and what if I suffer after it😔. I had counselling but it doesn’t help.

does anyone have any tips please ?

Reply 1

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by Anonymous
I am 21 turning 22 with a partner I’ve been with for over 6 years now, working and finished my studies. I found out I am pregnant 2 weeks ago and currently I am 7 weeks and a half pregnant. I really don’t know what to do because I always wanted children and sort of always like pictures of babies on my Instagram feed, however, finding out now was a shock. I initially thought okay let me go through with an abortion but idk if it was my hormones that kicked in but everytime I thought of it it made me cry historically. I had a scan the other day at MSI and when they asked me if I want to go ahead with the abortion I said I’m not sure and left. It is a tough decision because prior to finding out this news I had some bad anxiety and gloominess, some sleepless nights and ever since I found out about this pregnancy these things have been brushed off and things feel much clearer and brighter ( could it be the hormones or the fact I am in shock ) although I am really really mind blown. I don’t think I’m ready for this change at the moment because I am still young and don’t want to be robbed off my young years and still experience life but at the same time I’ve been stalling this abortion for a while and don’t know if I am brave enough to do it. I am really terrified of it and what if I suffer after it😔. I had counselling but it doesn’t help.
does anyone have any tips please ?

Are you and your partner stable enough financially for example do you share an accommodation of your own or have an accommodation of your own, would you be able to handle the expenses of providing for your unborn child food drink and toiletries and clothing. Are you currently in education…?

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by Mohammed_2000
Are you and your partner stable enough financially for example do you share an accommodation of your own or have an accommodation of your own, would you be able to handle the expenses of providing for your unborn child food drink and toiletries and clothing. Are you currently in education…?
We finished education and are both working but living in our parents homes, my mother is renting but everyone would support us so not sure what to don

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by anonymous
We finished education and are both working but living in our parents homes, my mother is renting but everyone would support us so not sure what to don

Down to you both to decide then ultimately.
(edited 1 year ago)

Reply 4

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by Mohammed_2000
Down to you both to decide then ultimately.
I know but I’m scared what if I decide not to keep it and I proper go through it after and idk

Reply 5

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by Anonymous
I know but I’m scared what if I decide not to keep it and I proper go through it after and idk

When you say go through it after and you don’t know as in look back with regret…?

Reply 6

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by Mohammed_2000
When you say go through it after and you don’t know as in look back with regret…?

Yes and suffer mentally

Reply 7

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by Anonymous
Yes and suffer mentally

It’s in your hands do you feel ready for a child deep down.

Reply 8

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by Anonymous
I am 21 turning 22 with a partner I’ve been with for over 6 years now, working and finished my studies. I found out I am pregnant 2 weeks ago and currently I am 7 weeks and a half pregnant. I really don’t know what to do because I always wanted children and sort of always like pictures of babies on my Instagram feed, however, finding out now was a shock. I initially thought okay let me go through with an abortion but idk if it was my hormones that kicked in but everytime I thought of it it made me cry historically. I had a scan the other day at MSI and when they asked me if I want to go ahead with the abortion I said I’m not sure and left. It is a tough decision because prior to finding out this news I had some bad anxiety and gloominess, some sleepless nights and ever since I found out about this pregnancy these things have been brushed off and things feel much clearer and brighter ( could it be the hormones or the fact I am in shock ) although I am really really mind blown. I don’t think I’m ready for this change at the moment because I am still young and don’t want to be robbed off my young years and still experience life but at the same time I’ve been stalling this abortion for a while and don’t know if I am brave enough to do it. I am really terrified of it and what if I suffer after it😔. I had counselling but it doesn’t help.
does anyone have any tips please ?

Having a child may be the greatest and happiest thing we can do with our lives, in my case I think so, but you might find the decision easier by thinking about the child's future, rather than your own. Relationships will always come with compromises

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by Anonymous
Having a child may be the greatest and happiest thing we can do with our lives, in my case I think so, but you might find the decision easier by thinking about the child's future, rather than your own. Relationships will always come with compromises


IN MY OPINION:
I think you seem mature and stable enough to support a child.

From what I’ve seen, most people regret having an abortion. There aren’t many people saying ‘I wish I had an abortion’ but loads that say ‘I wish I DIDNT have an abortion’ that’s what I think. Does your partner know you’re pregnant? Perhaps discuss it with family. Maybe get some paper and write down ALL of your feelings about your baby and then discuss them.


Ultimately it’s what you want to do, I reckon you should discuss it with family

(Although from what I’ve read it seems like you want the baby)

Reply 10

essentially I am not ready now I really don’t wanna go through it but at the same time because I’m in this predicament I sort of fear both the abortion and the birth and pregnancy

Reply 11

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by Anonymous
IN MY OPINION:
I think you seem mature and stable enough to support a child.
From what I’ve seen, most people regret having an abortion. There aren’t many people saying ‘I wish I had an abortion’ but loads that say ‘I wish I DIDNT have an abortion’ that’s what I think. Does your partner know you’re pregnant? Perhaps discuss it with family. Maybe get some paper and write down ALL of your feelings about your baby and then discuss them.
Ultimately it’s what you want to do, I reckon you should discuss it with family
(Although from what I’ve read it seems like you want the baby)

That’s the thing I feel like I really don’t feel ready rn but at the same time because I’m in this predicament idk what’s worse : the pregnancy or the abortion

Reply 12

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by Anonymous
That’s the thing I feel like I really don’t feel ready rn but at the same time because I’m in this predicament idk what’s worse : the pregnancy or the abortion


I’m pretty sure nobody feels ready. Imo you’re in a great position to have the child, you haven’t really given a reason why you shouldn’t that outweighs having the child if yknow what I mean

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