The Student Room Group

Crush for 4 years

What the title says. I've liked this guy for 4 years, I'm in year 11 now and we'll probably stay on for sixth form (it's part of my high school) but it's actually painful how much I like this guy and I kind of want to move on, but can't.
Anyone else had a similar experience or could give any advice? I'd really appreciate it :smile:

Reply 1

I've had the same experience as you and I'm not over over him but I no longer like him like I used to and what I can say is just find someone that loves you and cares for you honestly it will hurt more when he gets a girlfriend and ignores your existence.

Reply 2

Original post by Azariah14
I've had the same experience as you and I'm not over over him but I no longer like him like I used to and what I can say is just find someone that loves you and cares for you honestly it will hurt more when he gets a girlfriend and ignores your existence.

yeah, glad to know I'm not alone in it, only issue is that he liked me back when I liked him 4 years ago, and ever since then it's been difficult to know if he still likes me back as we no longer have any subjects together (and we've got GCSEs)

Reply 3

Original post by Anonymous
yeah, glad to know I'm not alone in it, only issue is that he liked me back when I liked him 4 years ago, and ever since then it's been difficult to know if he still likes me back as we no longer have any subjects together (and we've got GCSEs)

So maybe ask one of his friends or your friends to find out if he still likes you.

Reply 4

Original post by Azariah14
So maybe ask one of his friends or your friends to find out if he still likes you.

😭 i'm honestly way too shy / awkward a person to do that, plus, i don't have a ton of friends, and i wouldn't really trust them with something like this, and i don't talk to any of his friends, he's kind of more popular than me, like it would be a bit weird for us to get together, like i'm not saying "leagues" or anything but essentially he is, like, a higher league than me if you will

Reply 5

Original post by Anonymous
What the title says. I've liked this guy for 4 years, I'm in year 11 now and we'll probably stay on for sixth form (it's part of my high school) but it's actually painful how much I like this guy and I kind of want to move on, but can't.
Anyone else had a similar experience or could give any advice? I'd really appreciate it :smile:

Blank him out. Try anything to no longer think about him. Talk to someone new. Focus on yourself. Find someone you'd like better. I found myself circling back to someone who I knew wasn't good for me but I couldn't let go of them mentally. So I pretty much did anything to emotionally detach myself. Be with someone who will make you more happier. Anything. If you don't have time for that, try meeting new people to just take your mind off of him. It gets easier when you no longer think about him anymore.

Reply 6

Original post by hlepty
Blank him out. Try anything to no longer think about him. Talk to someone new. Focus on yourself. Find someone you'd like better. I found myself circling back to someone who I knew wasn't good for me but I couldn't let go of them mentally. So I pretty much did anything to emotionally detach myself. Be with someone who will make you more happier. Anything. If you don't have time for that, try meeting new people to just take your mind off of him. It gets easier when you no longer think about him anymore.

yeah ty for the advice, ig as I'm off to sixth form I'll meet a bunch of new people and hopefully, finally, leave him behind :smile:

Reply 7

Original post by Anonymous
yeah ty for the advice, ig as I'm off to sixth form I'll meet a bunch of new people and hopefully, finally, leave him behind :smile:

you'll do good. I hope youre okay, just dm me if you ever need to talk

Reply 8

Original post by Anonymous
What the title says. I've liked this guy for 4 years, I'm in year 11 now and we'll probably stay on for sixth form (it's part of my high school) but it's actually painful how much I like this guy and I kind of want to move on, but can't.
Anyone else had a similar experience or could give any advice? I'd really appreciate it :smile:

I had the exact same experience and never did anything about it until prom. I basically awkwardly shadowed him all night until the very end when I finally got the courage to talk to him and before I could tell him my feelings, he made an excuse that he had to go and promptly left. It felt sucky, but I had the summer to get over him and we ended up in different sixth form/colleges. I still regard him as someone I liked in my heart and every so often he makes an appearance in my dreams, but the person I liked is not the person he is. I liked the version of him that I knew in year 9. I hear of him every so often now and know that it was not meant to be. Please find closure for yourself through facing your feelings and doing the absolutely terrifying thing of confessing. If he reciprocates then yay, and if he doesn't you'll have the whole summer to get to grips with how you feel and it shouldn't be too awkward when you come back. Your case may be slightly different however, as this guy had been in my friend group for a little while. Hope this helps :smile:

Reply 9

Original post by emily-05
I had the exact same experience and never did anything about it until prom. I basically awkwardly shadowed him all night until the very end when I finally got the courage to talk to him and before I could tell him my feelings, he made an excuse that he had to go and promptly left. It felt sucky, but I had the summer to get over him and we ended up in different sixth form/colleges. I still regard him as someone I liked in my heart and every so often he makes an appearance in my dreams, but the person I liked is not the person he is. I liked the version of him that I knew in year 9. I hear of him every so often now and know that it was not meant to be. Please find closure for yourself through facing your feelings and doing the absolutely terrifying thing of confessing. If he reciprocates then yay, and if he doesn't you'll have the whole summer to get to grips with how you feel and it shouldn't be too awkward when you come back. Your case may be slightly different however, as this guy had been in my friend group for a little while. Hope this helps :smile:

Hey, it's good to hear I'm not alone in this XD
Sorry to hear it didn't work out for you, I would confess ig, but I think I always believed it'd be him confessing to me, which is stupid, because if he doesn't like me, he's not going to be confessing anytime soon, so I think I'll wait for sixth form, he'll probably be in the same one, but I'll hopefully meet more people and find someone else, fingers crossed, so I can get over him. I don't even know what I'd do if he did like me back, sometimes I wonder if, like you said, the version he was is the one I like, and who he is now isn't someone I'd date but rather the fun of having a crush is what I like.
But thanks for the help, honestly appreciate it <3

Reply 10

if you have him on snapchat or any social media then talk to him on there if you are still shy then create another account and say my cousin or something like that likes you and see his response and it doesn't matter whether he's a "higher league" than you

Quick Reply