No friends at school

So I’m entering S6 which is my last year of secondary school and I start on monday, exams have just finished and I never felt more alone knowing that I am going to have to friends to spend with in my last year of school. I do talk to some people but they usually hang out with people that don’t like me or don’t know me at all and they wouldn’t really consider me as a friend but just someone to talk to. I tried joining clubs at school but nobody in my year really goes to them it’s usually the S1s to S3s that go to them. It’s so annoying to just know I’m going to be spending my break and lunches in the bathroom again for the second year in a row so I’m wondering if anyone has any advice to actually make friends and I don’t want some crap advice telling me to talk to people because yes I know I have to do that in order to socialise with people to make friends but usually it doesn’t work out for me. Thanks

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Original post by Anonymous

Hi, I'm so sorry this happens to you. Literally everything you've written there applies to me at too. I talk (and listen) all the time to people but even if they're nice we never actually become friends. Often I have to initiate conversation myself. It hurts when people you like to talk to continue being friends with people that you know talk behind their back. I would never say "talk to people" but I would say "find common ground". I don't know if you have the phone numbers of these people, maybe you can invite a couple of people to hang out doing something you like doing. When you talk to them, let them know that you like doing so. I know that can be hard, but look at it from their perspective. What if they feel the same way about you? And if that does not work, I simply suggest joining a group where No One Knows Each Other. This means there are no cliques, ppl are a bit shy maybe, they're open to conversation and have probably come with at least some motive to meet people and make friends. Think about it: would you take the time to be friends with someone exactly like you? If yes, good for you - the people you are around are simply stupid teenagers who don't deserve a friendship with you. If not, why? Maybe you are so friendly that people think you have heaps of friends. I don't know what you're like obviously, but I really hope that's helped at least make you feel better. If not, I'm sorry.